I stay away from toxic people. I've never found a way of dealing with them other than not being in their company.
I stay away from toxic people. I've never found a way of dealing with them other than not being in their company.
The best you can do is learn how to spot them as fast as possible.
Avoid all contact with them.
If you must have contact with them you need to use the grey rock method!
This is what to look out for!
https://files.catbox.moe/0386w2.JPG
And the grey rock method means you just act completely disinterested and give the shortest possible replies.
Since they love drama and need validation from others they will avoid you.
Calling them out is seen as a declaration of war by them. So if you do this learn their tactics first. They will come at you hard.
The best you can do is learn how to spot them as fast as possible.
Avoid all contact with them.
If you must have contact with them you need to use the grey rock method!
This is what to look out for!
https://files.catbox.moe/0386w2.JPG
And the grey rock method means you just act completely disinterested and give the shortest possible replies.
Since they love drama and need validation from others they will avoid you.
Calling them out is seen as a declaration of war by them. So if you do this learn their tactics first. They will come at you hard.
And the grey rock method means you just act completely disinterested and give the shortest possible replies.
I thought the "grey rock method" meant that you throw grey rocks at them.
> And the grey rock method means you just act completely disinterested and give the shortest possible replies.
I thought the "grey rock method" meant that you throw grey rocks at them.
I simply avoid everyone.
I simply avoid everyone.
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=udtBg4uWZrU like a Japanese hikkimori?
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=udtBg4uWZrU like a Japanese hikkimori?
Hikikomori are based as fuck
Hikikomori are based as fuck
Unless they have an anus?
Unless they have an anus?
Beings other than humans have anuses...
Beings other than humans have anuses...
Only humans enjoy anal expansion. It hurts goats. Mohamed told me.
Only humans enjoy anal expansion. It hurts goats. Mohamed told me.
It's really difficult.
The most important thing to remember is that their behavior, comments, attitudes, whatever, aren't affected by you. There is zero you can do to improve their behavior. Even if you did everything perfectly as they would have wanted it to be, they will still be angry because they need to be angry to function.
It's a really difficult thing to remember. We have the tendency to think that others are rational, therefore if they are treating us in a certain way it is surely because we did something to earn it. With normal people this would be true. But with toxic people, they are in a pit of misery and need constant outlets for their overflow. Any excuse will do. They tripped? You're insufferable because you asked if they're ok. Clearly you're criticizing them because they're an adult and of course they're ok. You think a call dropped but they are too busy being annoyed that you're even on the phone, you ask if they're still there, and they snap at you as if you're unreasonable to verify the call didn't drop. It's a constant, abusive system of: you are always the problem. Try to address it and you get gas lighted.
There are times where you don't have a choice in dealing with these people. I'm sorry you found yourself in this situation. Mentally, I just keep busy and away from interaction as much as possible. I make sure I find satisfaction and achievement to offset the feeling of constant failure when dealing with this kind of person. It's extremely eroding, it kills the soul. Like a vampire. It has been a lot easier since I gave God the problem, but it is still difficult.
It's really difficult.
The most important thing to remember is that their behavior, comments, attitudes, whatever, aren't affected by *you.* There is zero you can do to improve their behavior. Even if you did everything perfectly as they would have wanted it to be, they will still be angry because they need to be angry to function.
It's a really difficult thing to remember. We have the tendency to think that others are rational, therefore if they are treating us in a certain way it is surely because we did something to earn it. With normal people this would be true. But with toxic people, they are in a pit of misery and need constant outlets for their overflow. Any excuse will do. They tripped? You're insufferable because you asked if they're ok. Clearly you're criticizing them because they're an adult and of course they're ok. You think a call dropped but they are too busy being annoyed that you're even on the phone, you ask if they're still there, and they snap at you as if you're unreasonable to verify the call didn't drop. It's a constant, abusive system of: you are always the problem. Try to address it and you get gas lighted.
There are times where you don't have a choice in dealing with these people. I'm sorry you found yourself in this situation. Mentally, I just keep busy and away from interaction as much as possible. I make sure I find satisfaction and achievement to offset the feeling of constant failure when dealing with this kind of person. It's extremely eroding, it kills the soul. Like a vampire. It has been a lot easier since I gave God the problem, but it is still difficult.
Stoicism is a good think to look into when unavoidably dealing with these NPCs every day. Meanwhile, prepare to move/remove them from your life.
Stoicism is a good think to look into when unavoidably dealing with these NPCs every day. Meanwhile, prepare to move/remove them from your life.
Get depression, but really hang in there.
Get depression, but really hang in there.
Distance yourself when you can, as little communication as possible when you must.
Distance yourself when you can, as little communication as possible when you must.
I don't associate with said trash.
I don't associate with said trash.
Thank you all for the advice
Thank you all for the advice
Nothing you can do will change them so don't let yourself be poisoned by the miserable creatures.
Ignore them and focus on those who make a positive influence.
"Water off a ducks back"
Nothing you can do will change them so don't let yourself be poisoned by the miserable creatures.
Ignore them and focus on those who make a positive influence.
"Water off a ducks back"
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