Yes, you just grit your teeth and smile. They're family.
As much as it pains me, this. At least 2/3 of you are based. Pray for your sister. She is blood.
Can relate. On the parent topic. Mom is toxic. Fucked me over a few times, but good. Disassociated with her and the rest of the fam. Dad is gone, she gave him cancer. I refuse to receive her cancer offering. The sibs are starting to figure out just how right I am about her after seven years of zero contact.
Modern Jew-driven socity is designed to break apart families. We are told that when we get out of school, we immediately have to go off on our own to live apart. Why? It's like some cruel primitive ritual. In other cultures, extended families live together and give each other support and comfort. Aunts and grandmothers help care for children. Cousins and uncles lend a hand when work needs to be done. The elderly are taken care of by their children and children's children. This is the way it should be. Social networking by blood. It was the so-called "Greatest Generation" that departed from it in the 1940s, and every generation since has suffered because of their collective decision to disregard family ties.
I hate my sister too and have cut her off years ago.
The most important rule with dealing with narcissists is "no contact ever!"
You did the right thing. But she will try and sucker you in for another round of her games. Winning is waking away for good with these assholes.
+1
mother is the malignant narcissist
sister is a violent sociopath golden child.
im the scapegoat
WAS the scapegoat. both of them can go to hell.
Yes. I suggest that you ensure that you are 100% certain that you harbor no guilt before you completely step out of the picture. This includes having a very honest conversation about where you stand and why she isn't going to be part of your life until she is vastly different.
This isn't for her, but for you. It ensures that you will never face any doubt and all fault lies in her court. As a good person, even if you do these things there will be times where you feel nostalgic and wish for a better relationship. It's so important that you make sure there's no doubt.
I'm sorry for your loss of what could've been a great form of family for your future children. An aunt is like gold if she's good.
You can’t choose your family. Remove toxicity from your life otherwise you will suffer the consequences - just my two cents!
will back that up. my dad died early due to our shit.
im not cos i got away from the cunts in my family.
looks like ima be married by this time next year too so im all god these days :P
I dont care for my siblings. They are just... terrible people.
You dont pick your family. A lot of people think that means you have to love them no matter what but that isn't right. It means you don't have to like them or associate with them at all.
Blood isn't important. Actions and character are important.
Right.
Hence the term, and I’m paraphrasing, ‘the blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb’. In that, your covenant with whom you choose, over your family.
Yep, my older brother stabbed me in the back in such a way that can never be completely forgiven, and it's been over 30 years now. I think it's more common than we'd like to think.
Wife has liberal sisters, they're a complete mess.
What did he do?
Had an affair with someone very close to me, you can probably guess, and though we were all young and dumb and dysfunctional, even white trash, I had begun to get on the right path. Still to this day want to kill him.
I've managed, for different reasons, to forgive the other party. What a damn mess.
Had a feeling. Damn. Sorry dude.
i feel nothing at all for one of my siblings. its pointless being angry with her. bitch is going to hell and will never be welcome near any kids i ever have.
unfortunately she took my other sister and her daughter with her and havent seen them for more than 2 years. my family thinks a 37 year old permanent virgin telling a 3 year old she smells like a fucking whore is ok but someone threatening to beat the bitch to a pulp for it is using the child as a weapon.
stick by your brother look after him and please keep him in your life. i lost both of mine.
Yep. My brother is literally a 400+ lb. basement dweller.
To be fair, he did try to make a go of when he was younger, but failed miserably. He got kicked out of the military for being a shitbag and then got divorce-raped.
Retreating to and retrenching at my parents' house was understandable at first. But after 15+ years of not even trying to start over, I'm more than just a little annoyed with him.
I also live in what some people might consider a desirable location. When I still had a kikebook, once a year or so he would pester me to allow him to come "visit." I always refuse and he doesn't have any money to come on his own, so he'd start squalling about how unfair it was and whining at our parents to "make me" do it, like he was still four instead of in his forties.
He does nothing but sit at his computer all day. I'm pretty sure he's a mod at reddit or some similar shithole. I'm sure the next step will be trooning out.
My whole family is made out of bickering, back stabbing and trying to prove I'm right and you're wrong. Always fucking arguing. There never was any real love in our family. I'm also unable to deal with my snobby betsy better than you sister. Lives in the Bay area, makes a bunch of money and looks down her nose at me. Mom an Dad hate each other but won't admit it. Dad doesn't think much of me because I didn't live up to become that person he had in his mind of what I was supposed to be. Mom has grown old and become a crazy cat lady who hates just about everyone, including me I think. On an on the psycho circus rages.
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