Whenever the fuck he feels like crying. A real man is not embarrassed by his fefes and is not so insecure that he thinks crying will make him look weak. Only the weak fear appearing weak.
Depends what the crying is for.
There’s crying and crying.
Crying for the loss of your kid or any family I think is okay.
Crying gives me a massive headache. So I try not to. I cried when my dad died when I was 22. I cried when I lost my grandmother. And I cried when I had a nervous breakdown after my friend killed himself.
When you laugh so hard that your body can't understand wtf is happening and tears come from your eyes.
Another situation is when you can't hold it. It's not like it's your decision, is it?
In private you stay strong for family. Mourn in private
I think I mostly agree, but don't you have yard work to do?
If your son never see you cry that's going to spell all sorts of problems for him in the future.
Is it though? There's nothing wrong with a man keeping his emotions in check, even if he's dying inside.
Men handle emotions differently than women do. It's really just as simple as as that.
Everyone is allowed to grieve in any way they choose. Don't try to take a moral stance on grief unless you're more of a masochist than I am.
Not crying because of expectations is the kind of idea that tells a person, regardless of gender, that people's idea of them crying is bad and in order to be loved you should not cry.
This is because kids think they're the center of the world. This is important when thinking about child pyscology.
If you tell your son to keep it together when he's about to cry you're telling him, "if you cry I'll love you less."
Obviously if he starts to cry start to work out the logic on how to make the situation better. That's what men do best. You can teach them how to figure out their problems from there because you've allowed them the space to show their emotions.
If you want to grow a child into a man, let him make his own decisions, even when to cry. There's more power in owning your emotions than hiding them, because hiding them is a form of fear.
There's no moral stance taken here. This can all be summed up as
"Do as thou wilt."
When those with whom he had impactful or high-value relationships are lowered into the ground forever
Only at a funeral
IF you cry for the loss of family or children I think its okay.
Fear of others thoughts is weak and pathetic.
You are probably a shitty member of society if that is how you feel.
People enjoy a man who can provide for his own need even, emotionally. I wouldn't expect a man to seek validation of his emotions to his woman. A real man would know his emotions are valid without outside validation because he is integrated.
This is how I live to operate in society, and you know what, I've gotten validation from people without asking for it. I'm not just pulling this shit out of my ass. I've read a number of books on this stuff as I had a fucked up childhood.
Get integrated or gtfo.
Crying a little, is good for your health. that's why we have the ability to cry. Then after that it is best to look back and make your self strong again. What kills you makes you stronger. lol
Not always.
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