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ive been my moms primary caretaker for years, not getting paid for it, but living with her for the past six years, sunday she died in the hospital (she went in for a uti and they kept her there for heart failure, which she had 2 heart attacks so not unexpected) but since she didnt leave a will or anything. how do i keep our childhood home? just take up paying the bills? or....what. ive been talking to her friend and know moms wishes but she never wrote any of them down or got them notorized. she wanted me to keep the house and all her posessions (because my sisters when she was alive was always absent in our lives until they needed a hand out) any advice?

thanks for the replies.

i tried to comment on all of you but it keeps giving me a timer to wait and it keeps getting longer and longer. i usually just lurk on poal and nobody i know irl knew what to do. so thank you all for the advice, and the kind words.

ive been my moms primary caretaker for years, not getting paid for it, but living with her for the past six years, sunday she died in the hospital (she went in for a uti and they kept her there for heart failure, which she had 2 heart attacks so not unexpected) but since she didnt leave a will or anything. how do i keep our childhood home? just take up paying the bills? or....what. ive been talking to her friend and know moms wishes but she never wrote any of them down or got them notorized. she wanted me to keep the house and all her posessions (because my sisters when she was alive was always absent in our lives until they needed a hand out) any advice? thanks for the replies. i tried to comment on all of you but it keeps giving me a timer to wait and it keeps getting longer and longer. i usually just lurk on poal and nobody i know irl knew what to do. so thank you all for the advice, and the kind words.

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[–] • 16 pts

You are probably fucked. Your sisters have a right to receive a portion of your mother's estate, probably a portion equal to yours since you took care of your mother voluntarily. If they contest your inheritance, prepare to see your mother's estate divided into as many parts as she had children. If your sisters are not ghouls and are reasonable, they will want you to have a slightly larger share because you took care of her. They may even want you to get the house. But that's only if they are decent and reasonable human beings. Most people turn into monsters when the prospect of inheriting money comes into view. Maybe your sisters will be different.

[–] • 0 pt

one sister is fine and says i should get everything. the other literally just wants to give me the house. everything else i have no clue whats going on in her head i do know shes psycho about money because shes getting her wages garneshed so much she works 45 hours a week and only brings home 200 bucks (she mentioned it to mom in the hospital and to me when we were leaving from that last visit). money wise we....dont have alot. (we had 1900 in savings which is news to me that last week when mom couldnt even see her phone anymore. i coulda swore we still had my money from before i quit my job to care for her)

[–] • 1 pt (edited )

Honestly, and this is going to sound like an internet asshole spouting off (which normally would be about right) but if you haven't been employed for years...you might want to push this through escro a.s.a.p. (find a lawyer who specializes in it.) typically this takes around 8-12 months (and with the COHHH VIDZ it might be longer) .

Know if the house has any liens against it. Also you need to get the water/sewage/trash paid ..as you can't sell a house until its got a zero balance.

I have no idea what you're doing for funding (hopefully the house had income coming into the home other than her social security checks) but you're going to need it. April is over (hopefully you got 1/2 the property taxes in) but October will be on you before you know it and those property taxes are insane and getting worse.

In short, if you don't have anything, no job , no money...then get a lawyer a.s.a.p and get the house in your name. Sell it a.s.a.p. and use your friends and relatives until you can get some solid financial footing.

Sorry for your loss. There's nothing worse than losing your mother....nothing I've found comes close (my (only) wife isn't leaving before me , but I imagine that's equal if not worse) Good luck.

[–] • 1 pt

Can't get a lawyer if u habs no money