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ive been my moms primary caretaker for years, not getting paid for it, but living with her for the past six years, sunday she died in the hospital (she went in for a uti and they kept her there for heart failure, which she had 2 heart attacks so not unexpected) but since she didnt leave a will or anything. how do i keep our childhood home? just take up paying the bills? or....what. ive been talking to her friend and know moms wishes but she never wrote any of them down or got them notorized. she wanted me to keep the house and all her posessions (because my sisters when she was alive was always absent in our lives until they needed a hand out) any advice?

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i tried to comment on all of you but it keeps giving me a timer to wait and it keeps getting longer and longer. i usually just lurk on poal and nobody i know irl knew what to do. so thank you all for the advice, and the kind words.

ive been my moms primary caretaker for years, not getting paid for it, but living with her for the past six years, sunday she died in the hospital (she went in for a uti and they kept her there for heart failure, which she had 2 heart attacks so not unexpected) but since she didnt leave a will or anything. how do i keep our childhood home? just take up paying the bills? or....what. ive been talking to her friend and know moms wishes but she never wrote any of them down or got them notorized. she wanted me to keep the house and all her posessions (because my sisters when she was alive was always absent in our lives until they needed a hand out) any advice? thanks for the replies. i tried to comment on all of you but it keeps giving me a timer to wait and it keeps getting longer and longer. i usually just lurk on poal and nobody i know irl knew what to do. so thank you all for the advice, and the kind words.

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[–] • 1 pt

If you volunteered your time and never discussed what you expect in return with your siblings or mother then it isn't really fair that you now expect a larger inheritance. I agree that it is fair that you be compensated but that is something everyone who has a right to that inheritance needs to agree to. Perhaps if you had a family meeting about what you are doing and what you expect to get the other family members would decide they rather donate thier own time to have a larger inheritance too.

[–] • 0 pt (edited )

i lived in moms house anyway, i figured since i had to take care of her while she was here i could have the house and keep my stuff. i dont want to bogard my sisters of anything except the house. they both have residences this is/was mine. if they want the jeep go ahead. if they want her jewelry. okay i guess. thiers not much of worth in the house to begin with we were always poor as fuck.

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Yeah, you "just" want the most valuable thing your mom owned. How modest. You are so kind to leave your siblings the scraps. Perhaps you will even let them live there rent free the way you have been doing. Well, no no, that would be too much. Besides, you need the space for your mental gymnastics to convince yourself you are the victim for having to even split the inheritance.