It might be hard as fuck to find someone willing but men can have kids even into their 70's. Just putting that out there.
It's been suggested before but I can't count on living long enough to see my kid through high school, let alone be there to make sure they had a good launch in life. The mother would have to be a bit nuts to marry a man ~30 years her senior, can't say I'd feel comfortable leaving my child raising to her (unless I really knew her well, build trust and that takes more time).
Also the poor kid would have a grand dad for a father while all of his/her friends Dads would be 30-40 years younger. There would be no relatives left on my side (except my cousins and their kids), so no aunts, uncles, cousins, grandparents.
I think having kids now would be selfish of me and not in the best interest of the child. Of course the right woman could make all the difference, but it would be a miracle to find that woman.
Yeah, that may be true but at the same time. Why give up? You have a legacy to leave behind and even if you are not around for all of it, it would give you more to live for too.
I am older than I would like but I have not given up. Hoping that we will "get lucky" soon and if not we might look at some medical options. There are too many good men that are not passing anything on to the world. This is not a jab at you or to be upsetting. Just a personal view on the matter.
Oh, a Friend of mine has a father that is ~24 years older than his wife. She was not 'young' when they met. His dad is still around as well as his mother but he has turned out well even with "grandpa as dad".
I agree, people aren't having kids like in the boomer baby years. There were always kids outside playing somewhere in the neighborhood.
I have cousins on my mother's side and they have good kids in their 40s. I guess I've accepted that it's not mission critical for to me to have a child, my estate can benefit my Mom's side of the family when I pass. I can still live my life, maybe get lucky and meet a great lady closer to my age ... have some quality time and someone to share it with
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