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I do have children, and I'm on the spectrum (legitimately diagnosed), which has made things very difficult, especially for my family. I was diagnosed 20 years into marriage, and had I known before I got married, I never would have done this to another person. So I get what you're saying, and while I am sorry for my choice, it's more from the perspective of not having what another would need to get from me in a relationship and what the lack of whatever that is does to those I love. But I made a promise, and I am doing my level best to keep it. My oldest is grown, and my youngest has issues that will prevent him from ever leaving our care, so I'm not holding my breath for grandkids.

It's somewhat strange that the most important things in life don't have an entrance exam of some sort.

Everyone alive today has a spectrum of something. Do your best, constant and never ending improvement. The compounding effects are worth it. You are probably doing as well as anyone else. Best wishes

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Thanks. Yes, everyone has something they deal with, but for me it took having someone work through it with me to find out what it was. In my case knowledge is power, and once I began working through it with a doctor, so much that had occurred in my life up to that point suddenly made sense. I was born quite a long time before my diagnosis was even possible here in the States, but once I understood the differences, it not only helped me deal with things, but to be able to understand that there are intangible things, like body language, that people key off of. I still can't read anyone, but being aware of it helps a lot. I spend a lot of time smiling at people even though I often don't understand why it's important.

Even so, had I known before I got married, I would have at least been armed with enough knowledge for my wife to have made an informed decision. Would she still have said "I do?" Maybe, maybe not, but at least we each would have known where we stood, and perhaps been better able to compensate.

Be well.