Just trying to understand why she would be spooked about you mentioning guns, maybe it was the way you said it. Shooting is a valuable skill, however taking delight in weapons of death is a disturbing thing for anyone to experience. An intelligent person said to only train with weapons, but not collect them, or flourish them more than necessary. It's true, if we are civilized people we approach with words, in a productive way first. No better way than that if you want someone else to be reasonable, you only escalate to that level if the person cannot be reasoned with. The lack of reasoning is what puts people on edge.