You're expecting women to have agency and take care of themselves. Sure they can, but in the end what they want and what they need is a man to tell them how it is. I listen to my girl to let her get it out. But I limit it and am working on better techniques for putting an end to it when she's had enough or I'm not in the mood. Ultimately it's good for her to have a couple of girl friends the cluck with. Better than you being her only outlet. Which let's be honest, covid means she basically only spends time with me.