No, I definitely fell for a ruse. Standing your ground happens on purpose. I'm not going to relabel it afterwards to feel better but I got smarter because of that experience. You want to have the courage to stand your ground, the intelligence and knowledge to do it well, and the tact to know when to do so. You also want the mental dexterity to outmaneuver people when appropriate. All of those things are important, not just one. A significant part of jewish cultural influence comes directly from exercising those personal skills and the better we are at them the better we can impose our own dominance.