the author has a point that the husband has more of a place to make this complaint agianst her but then it just becomes her word agianst his. If the friend said something then there is another person backing up the story and showing that she had intent to divorce him before he had a vasectomy. Also the author suggests getting away from this women so what does it matter if this women put her trust in her friend or not, how does that effect the decision of to tell or not to tell the job? If you don't want to be friends with someone anymore why does it matter if they trust you. Also this women's husband trusted her and that didn't work out too well for him so why should her trust in this matter not be broken? Also that is true that sometimes it's not our job to make people suffer for their wrongdoings but sometimes it is. Informing her job of this does not necessarily mean the job will do anything but really they should know that this women did not think her husband was capable of making his own reproductive choices.