I wasn’t trying to play the sympathy or one up game.
Didn't think you were, partner. And 'thems what knows', also knows that "sympathy" is just a word that appears in the dictionary somewhere between "shit" and "syphilis". But sometimes you just gotta let the badger loose, and if not here, then where?
I learned long ago, first as a Soldier, then as a cop, then as a Border Patrol Agent, then as a Soldier again, and finally as a 'consultant', "seeing the elephant" changes you in ways that you don't even realize until you try to tell civilians about it. Then you see: 1) the completely blank lack of understanding in their eyes, and: 2) they start edging toward the exit.
So we stop talking to them, because our "normal" is not their "normal" and never will be.
Thanks.
I learned a long time ago not to bring it up.
My GF watches every true crime show and saying “this one time” really upsets/ depresses her, my story is worse then what we’re watching? lmao.
If I’m out and have had a few drinks and you tell me “one time this guy tried to grab me” to get your oppression/victim points I’ll tell you a real story until you walk away.
But I generally don’t think about it, it’s in the past and should stay there.
My normal for a person/their life is skewed, I know that much and people don’t understand that for any of us who’ve been places or done things.
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