Sucks. Told you not to make a big deal out of it. Also, for future reference, once the cops are called in on a dv the situation is out of both of your hands. They are bound by a set of procedures foisted on them. They always have to make one person leave the property and it's almost always the man. Now you will have to deal with a shitty prosecutor. Even if your wife doesn't want to pursue, if the prosecutor decides to, there is nothing she can do to stop it. Lawyer up. (Watched that s happened a few times with my parents and that was in the 90's, things are even crazier today I'm sure). Edit: If you want to salvage your marriage: give her space and time right now. Then see if she is open to marriage counseling. Take it slow. I know you feel rejected right now. Marriages come back from this, they do. It's just going to take A LOT of work. And..... don't take marriage advise from shit posters on Poal. Only a handful of us are giving genuine advice. The rest are assholes. So sorry you are going through this.