The Japanese method sounds like ours was. She gave herself and him and allowance because budgets were important. Television made it seem like every household was drowning in money, and every husband went executive class. Men and women carved out their roles according to nature. Establishment feminists believe men forced women into their roles against their wills, all across history and time. It makes sense to allow the husband to have the final word in arguable decisions, because someone has to be appointed for the smooth running of the household.