This is why it's critical to get the best attorney you can afford. Family court judges fucking the husbands and fathers is standard policy. I went thru it. It takes time to get past it. The opposite of love is not hate. The opposite of live is indifference When you reach a point in time when you absolutely don't give a fuck if she lives or dies you've arrived. At that point in time give yourself a pat on the back. At that point in time you have overcome one of the worst things that happens to good men. Hang in there brother!!!