Why are you allowing what other people say or do control YOU? YOU are charge of YOU, no one else is. If you don't like what other people say or do, do not allow you own mind to be controlled by it in any way. Sure, other people can put thoughts into YOUR head, but YOU do not have to ACT on them. Once there, they may annoy you, but YOU do not have to ACT on them. Stop giving those thoughts energy by allowing them to make you emotional over them being there. Once there, you can't MAKE them go away, but if you stop giving them energy by worrying about them, thinking about them, they will eventually go away on their own.