> Whenever I bring it up I'm told the whole thing was my idea. I didn't catch the last sentence when I first read this. In my case, ultimately my parents ended up both crying in front of me and told me I was hurting them by not going to college right after high school, so I finally said "Ok, I guess I'll go...?" When it became obvious how that decision fucked me over they told me "Well, you agreed with us and we all decided it together." As fucked up as that is, I ONLY gave in to that because I thought, as stupid as it is, I'll just get a job after college and take it from there. But wait, there's more...If you would have told me that getting that stupid degree would be the very thing that prevented me from getting a job I would have physically fought them to not go. The closest I've ever got to an admission of them fucking up was when they finally said "Well, I guess you should have stood up to us more" Like...how the fuck does it even occur to you to say something like that...? The amount and level of rage I've felt over the past 10 years has actually had a transformative effect on my soul. That generation made us conform to a system that fucked us over, and when we had to deal with the shitty reality of having done that, they tried to gaslight us into taking the guilt up our own assholes because heaven forbid THEY ever have to deal with feelings of guilt, remorse, and general accountability...