Thank you. I'm equally lucky, he is a good husband, father, provider. To be quite frank the only way I found him was because of all the bad examples I had while I dated. I learned each time what to avoid and when he and I started dating there was no "fuck around and find out" happening. The heavy hitting questions came out from the get go. I was done, I had decided I would just be an old cat lady (at the ripe age of 23) with a career and travel. So when we had our first date I was asking hard questions and he didn't back down (his time clock was going off to have children, funny that you guys have that too :) ). I was *looking* for a reason to not date him again. He passed. He would tell you he knew we were getting married after that date. And he told me two weeks later we were going to be married. He proposed less than a year later. So my suggestion is to look for women who stand out from whatever environment they are in. I shot pool a lot, and even though it was a bar, I never drank or smoke, and I never went home with any man. There were none there worth having. At the grocery store, notice the women who arent wearing rings and are buying real food, not crap. Join groups for people who like the same thing you do. Shooting? Patriotic? Cyclist? Sailing? If they're tatted up, pierced up, dress trampy, use salacious behavior, dodge. It's hard for a man because this behavior is an easy sales pitch because you think well hey at least i'll get laid. Every day you spend with that kind of woman is a day you could have met the right kind. Sit down and think really hard about the kind of woman you do want and don't settle. See the early warning signs. And DO NOT settle for an ugly one thinking it'll work better. It doesn't. I tried that. All it got me was a lot of ragging from friends about earning a martyr award in heaven. You need to be within 1 SMV (sexual market value) point on a 10 point scale or you're going to deal with insecurity. No one needs any extra crap to deal with in a relationship. And you're probably not going to want to hear this. But the ultimate factor in finding a good mate is ultimately dictated by the values within the bible. No one likes to admit that the very core virtues all stem from what God has said. Everything he tells us is for our benefit, and living by his word and standards results in a life well lived, well rewarded, satisfactory, far easier than any life full of what is considered sinful. Examine the virtues therein and examine yourself and make sure that you are a man worth having the kind of woman you desire to have. Because SMV isn't the only important factor. *Spiritual* market value very well may be exceedingly important. Wish you the best. Don't settle even in a world where it seems there is nothing but leftovers. I thought the same thing and gave up. That's when he found me.