Systemically, we were not designed to “date,” anyway. We were designed to find the one and get married. However, before that point, since time immemorial, young men went out to “seek their fortune” before they bothered with “romance.”
Co-educational schools and work environments have incited the problem of young men being distracted from their first responsibility of becoming financially secure before being wed. Contact with girls derails the boys, as the boys turn their attention to wooing rather than working.
The correct order he should have followed: - ignore parental suggestions - find a Bible teaching church - skip college - learn a trade - save up - get a house (cash, no mortgage) - move out - meet a girl (as young as legally possible) - vette the girl and her family - marry the girl with her father’s support and endorsement
When my kid comes of age I intend to push him in the direction of vocational school and suggest he joins the union. I know the union is corrupt in its own right but if he can network successfully he should find a bunch of good ole boys to associate with.
I do like your list there, I think it breaks it down nicely. Ignore parental advice comes at a certain age as they gain independence from their parents, so I don't want to scare him away from careers by suggesting it.
But he'll have me and his dad to come to for advice always. We will be a safety net if he ever needs.
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