If I understand correctly, this is your first baby. I would not try an at home birth with the first baby and no midwife. I assume neither you nor your husband are nurses.
I am all for questioning medical authority and being your own doctor at least some of the time, but I do think there is a lot that could go wrong, especially your first time around. If you cant scrounge up the money for a midwife I think you need to bite the bullet and use the hospital.
Youve probably researched a few things you can do to avoid the c section.
Your husband could get made a medical proxy or surrogate decision maker, which means he could make decisions for you if you werent able to for whatever reason. But I think in most situations you are your own best advocate. Especially if you are informed.
Our medical establishment has become somewhat corrupt. So its a hard decision. But I still think its a better option to brave the hospital than going it alone.
i think youre right. going to a hospital would make me feel alot better anyways than trying to do something we read in an (in depth) article about child birth (found on Poal i think).
though you also bring up another interesting point. while we're a bonded couple with no interest of breaking up, we're not married on paper where the jews make it count. i havnt signed any papers saying that my spouse has legal rights to make decisions for me if im incapable of making decisions for myself.
if the hospital decides to do things against our will, we'd be willing to call the police for backup. i wonder how that would work out in practice
Well, call legal aid in your county or state —they might point you in the right direction in terms of giving your (unofficial) husband you medical surrogate or medical power of attorney agent. And obviously ask for their advice about c sections. Sometimes lawyers know the “magic words” to say that will get a hospital or doctor to back off.
Remember that sometimes if you want to be released against medical advice they will send a shrink ro talk to you. They may intentionally try to provoke you (I have seen this) because if you make a threat or hit them or push them they can have you held on a psych eval for 48 hrs, so dont do anything “crazy”, even if you are stressed.
In closing I would like to add that even though some hospitals are performing unecessary c sections, some are necessary, so don’t be totally opposed to the c section. And good luck!
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