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I think that was the hardest part about this entire process.

Spending last Thanksgiving alone.

Knowing my Father hates cellphones, thinking he would give me a last minute callback, telling me he was sorry, and forgot to check his messages, and yes, I could come to Dinner, and I should arrive around 2:00 AM.

That fucking coward didn't have the Heart to answer my calls, or return them.

My brother told me he was oddly silent when some family friends asked where I was at the dinner table.

But he made his choice.

He chose to trust a lot of people he has never met, and they told him not to trust his own Son.

They told him I was Deadly, I was Ignorant, and I was the reason things would never return to normal.

And now he wants to talk again, my Brother tells me.

I'm going to call it. We never had a great relationship, but now it just seems like it is done.

I'm going to tell him that we won't be seeing each other again.

He can see Dr. Fauci, or CNN, or the Media in general whenever he wants to.

After all, he chose them over me.

I think that was the hardest part about this entire process. Spending last Thanksgiving alone. Knowing my Father hates cellphones, thinking he would give me a last minute callback, telling me he was sorry, and forgot to check his messages, and yes, I could come to Dinner, and I should arrive around 2:00 AM. That fucking coward didn't have the Heart to answer my calls, or return them. My brother told me he was oddly silent when some family friends asked where I was at the dinner table. But he made his choice. He chose to trust a lot of people he has never met, and they told him not to trust his own Son. They told him I was Deadly, I was Ignorant, and I was the reason things would never return to normal. And now he wants to talk again, my Brother tells me. I'm going to call it. We never had a great relationship, but now it just seems like it is done. I'm going to tell him that we won't be seeing each other again. He can see Dr. Fauci, or CNN, or the Media in general whenever he wants to. After all, he chose them over me.

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[–] • 5 pts

I'm going to call it. We never had a great relationship, but now it just seems like it is done.

I'm going to tell him that we won't be seeing each other again.

I'm going to weigh in here which I don't often do but I have a relatable situation that you may find helpful as you go forward. My mother was mentally ill and never attempted any kind of treatment. She had every addiction you could find save alcohol and why she left that on the table is anyones guess. She lied, cheated, stole from her siblings, pitted my brother and I against each without our knowledge , well you get the idea. One of her favorite attention whore tricks to pull was, to over medicate or non medicate till she'd face plant and end up in the ER. Soon as she'd get there, she'd make a huge ruckus and demand to go home. In the meantime she'd get everyone on the run going nutso, wondering whats up etc. I'd end up with a 5 hour trip in only to find her either HOME or in the ER pitching a bitch and being an asshole. One of my last trips I told her this is it. Run this game again on me and I'm walking. Long story short she did something WORSE and that was it. I walked away. never spoke another word to her for the final 3 years. She died surrounded by strangers because she had alienated everyone else. I wasn't there nor did I care. I STILL don't. I didn't do it as a fuck you or I'll show you kind of thing. It was simply a matter of mental survival and the realization that I just didn't need that shit anymore. "Family" is a relative term, no pun intended. I have had strangers treat me better than "family" ever did. Giving someone a title, ( mother, father etc) does NOT give THEM the right to kick over YOUR blocks. It's a birth Certificate not a deed of ownership.

Your "father" made his choice. As you say he decided to trust strangers over his own son. I think you're doing the right thing by making him live with that decision, because if there are no consequences to bad actions, then the people will just repeat those actions. I think you will find that as time goes on you will feel better about your decision to walk and not feel any regret. You have nothing TO regret. You tried. Repeatedly it sounds like. This is the path he chose. Let him walk on all the broken glass and learn something. Good Luck.

[–] • 1 pt

Thanks, that was a really thoughtful comment, and the whole thing about "family" being a relative term made me miss my step-dad a whole lot. He was a really great man, and I wish he was still around.

[–] • 2 pts

You are most welcome. I hope it helped. Try looking at this way too if that helps. The day is going to come for ALL of us when we no longer owe anything to this life and we leave this world for the next one. When that happens all the things that sucked here and all the misguided people will see all that blown away and they will get the chance to see the truth and THEN things can be repaired. I personally am waiting for that day. Till then, I soldier on as best I can. Thats all that can be asked of any of us.