A serious message, so choose your words carefully. A damn shame, but people make their choices.

I'd say see if he's willing to apologize and if he now recognizes the coof scam. If he can humbly pass that muster, then a final chance may be in order. If not, you can be confident in your decision.

You have a standing invite to Thanksgiving at my house. Just let me know when you're on the way.

I'm going to call it. We never had a great relationship, but now it just seems like it is done.

I'm going to tell him that we won't be seeing each other again.

I'm going to weigh in here which I don't often do but I have a relatable situation that you may find helpful as you go forward. My mother was mentally ill and never attempted any kind of treatment. She had every addiction you could find save alcohol and why she left that on the table is anyones guess. She lied, cheated, stole from her siblings, pitted my brother and I against each without our knowledge , well you get the idea. One of her favorite attention whore tricks to pull was, to over medicate or non medicate till she'd face plant and end up in the ER. Soon as she'd get there, she'd make a huge ruckus and demand to go home. In the meantime she'd get everyone on the run going nutso, wondering whats up etc. I'd end up with a 5 hour trip in only to find her either HOME or in the ER pitching a bitch and being an asshole. One of my last trips I told her this is it. Run this game again on me and I'm walking. Long story short she did something WORSE and that was it. I walked away. never spoke another word to her for the final 3 years. She died surrounded by strangers because she had alienated everyone else. I wasn't there nor did I care. I STILL don't. I didn't do it as a fuck you or I'll show you kind of thing. It was simply a matter of mental survival and the realization that I just didn't need that shit anymore. "Family" is a relative term, no pun intended. I have had strangers treat me better than "family" ever did. Giving someone a title, ( mother, father etc) does NOT give THEM the right to kick over YOUR blocks. It's a birth Certificate not a deed of ownership.

Your "father" made his choice. As you say he decided to trust strangers over his own son. I think you're doing the right thing by making him live with that decision, because if there are no consequences to bad actions, then the people will just repeat those actions. I think you will find that as time goes on you will feel better about your decision to walk and not feel any regret. You have nothing TO regret. You tried. Repeatedly it sounds like. This is the path he chose. Let him walk on all the broken glass and learn something. Good Luck.

Seems like he might come around, hard. Don't throw out family. You know how many times my dad and I have had falling outs over ideology, to brawls. One of us usually fucks the other up good. But after cool off, and reconciliation, our love grows stronger.

But fuck this weekend. He's on call, and so on edge. Pops is cool as a cucumber on average, but then the littlest thing upsets him and everything is a travesty. Still love that Nigger.

Do it. They turned their back on you.

Time for you to write him out of your life and consider him a "leper" since that's how he treated you.

As a matter of fact, you should invite everyone except him just to really rub it in.

I agree with you. Keep up the good fight. Let him get comfort from CNN.

How people treated you before is a strong indicator of how they'll treat you in the future.

Cut your losses and lose the unneeded baggage.

For what it's worth, 'family' is the other f-word that I avoid unless death is on the line. It was simply a way mine functioned that led to my point of view; turns out that that word only comes up for manipulation. To that end, there's the family you're born with and the one you make. Given our nature/culture we will see both through, but the focus should be on the latter; the former will only take you to Davie Jones' locker - every time.