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I wanted to say thank you to everyone, I appreciate your well wishes.

I don't want this to be morbid, but we knew this was coming for a long, long time. Preparations had been made almost a decade ago for this event. We're all just happy it was quick, and that the long goodbye has finally ended.

Both my parents made arrangements for cremation, and both have specific wishes as what to do with the ashes. My father wishes to go to some fishing spots, so we're all going to go our separate ways and find some secluded, out of the way spot by a river to say our final goodbye.

Mamabird is doing good, she's...sadly relieved. She's wanted to move on for a while, to find a new home, and that's something I urged them to do for years. No need for a giant house and yard that's hard for a family to care for, let alone two elderly people. We finalized the services today, that was all prepaid, it was just a signature on a paper. We're just dealing with the life insurance now, as soon as that comes through she'll find a new place closer to those who can help her on a daily basis.

I've already taken what I wanted from the family artifacts...all the photos, a couple of local history pieces. When the safe is opened there's something in there I'd like to have as well, but it's not necessary...just, I'd like to have it.

To be honest, it's harder to write this than was to say goodbye, but say goodbye we all eventually must. Thank you all again.

I wanted to say thank you to everyone, I appreciate your well wishes. I don't want this to be morbid, but we knew this was coming for a long, long time. Preparations had been made almost a decade ago for this event. We're all just happy it was quick, and that the long goodbye has finally ended. Both my parents made arrangements for cremation, and both have specific wishes as what to do with the ashes. My father wishes to go to some fishing spots, so we're all going to go our separate ways and find some secluded, out of the way spot by a river to say our final goodbye. Mamabird is doing good, she's...sadly relieved. She's wanted to move on for a while, to find a new home, and that's something I urged them to do for years. No need for a giant house and yard that's hard for a family to care for, let alone two elderly people. We finalized the services today, that was all prepaid, it was just a signature on a paper. We're just dealing with the life insurance now, as soon as that comes through she'll find a new place closer to those who can help her on a daily basis. I've already taken what I wanted from the family artifacts...all the photos, a couple of local history pieces. When the safe is opened there's something in there I'd like to have as well, but it's not necessary...just, I'd like to have it. To be honest, it's harder to write this than was to say goodbye, but say goodbye we all eventually must. Thank you all again.
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I'm sorry I didn't offer my condolences in the prior post.

When it's a long time coming, it does become more a relief. The most you can hope for is that it's relatively painless. I'm sorry for your loss.

I don't know much more what to say. I hope that the things you save can ease the grief in time, just a bit.

I'd say keep the land and house in the family, but I don't know your family's connection or capacity to upkeep it. But, I suppose, if you're using it to pay for your mother's EoL care, I can understand.

Sometimes, the relief hits worse than the grief. There's no real shame in that, I think. Seeing someone waste away for years can really wear on you and your soul. But you still feel bad for feeling the pressure finally vanish, because it comes at a profound loss.

Cheers, bird.

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Thank you friend.

There's no real attachment to the land, it's not something that any of us have the capacity to care for. My brother would like it, but he's a financial train wreck and can barely hold on to what he has now.

I just want mom to take the money and enjoy the time she has left...if she spends it all, then so much the better.

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May the Lord watch over you and yours during tying times.

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I've been away a few days so I haven't heard about this. I'm sorry for your loss, I happy that it was quick and you all were prepared.

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Mamabird definitely needs a smaller bird house she can manage and is not a burden to maintain. It also helps with avoiding too many memories during grieving.

You’re a good bird, stupid but good.

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She does, and she wants to be around others. I'll do what I can, but she has a plan.

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The only grace is that when it is a long time coming, it is easier for your mom to move on becauee the grieving was already done over a long time.

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God bless you and yours 'Bird. Life is an experimental experience we go through.

Enjoy life every single day and every single minute no matter what, no matter where and no matter when.