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It feels like I'm surprised every year. I didn't think I'd make it past 30, even when I was a kid. I know I'll never be able to retire, so what I'm doing now is likely what I'll be doing until I do croak. I'm probably the happiest I've ever been, mostly because my head is on straight and I'm with someone not using me. Sucks that inflation and housing is through the roof, but I guess that's to be expected anymore.

It feels like I'm surprised every year. I didn't think I'd make it past 30, even when I was a kid. I know I'll never be able to retire, so what I'm doing now is likely what I'll be doing until I do croak. I'm probably the happiest I've ever been, mostly because my head is on straight and I'm with someone not using me. Sucks that inflation and housing is through the roof, but I guess that's to be expected anymore.

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Those were probably my happiest years also, life is funny. Im surprised I made it thru my twentys. Fuck. Here I am.

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Right? 20s were nuts. I got over my impulsiveness in my 30s and my life got infinitely more chill lol. Signing a lease and moving in with someone I hadn't met was probably the stupidest and that was in my late 20s.

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Im honestly still surprised I didnt die or go to prison before I got married at 28.

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For me it was definitely death that was likely. Prison not so much, at least until I was forced onto Zoloft. Then I became homicidal. But that knocked me out of my situation and gave me a second chance, so even that wasn't all bad.

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If I didn't have Irish and Scottish blood in me, I would have probably died by 22. For a couple of years I would drink a bottle of Bacardi 151 (that's 75.5% alcohol) every night. I should not have a liver right now.

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Yeah as far as alcohol goes I think its geneitic.

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Also why "cunt" is my favorite word.

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Geez. I think I drink. I talk to others and my mind is blown. I know my liver "numbers" are fine. But yeesh. One of these days I'll even ban the wine. My dad was a bourbon drinker. As far as I know, he's still alive. I dunno though. My bro and I haven't talked to him in a while.

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I am about to turn 32 next summer. Turning 40 seems strange to me.

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It is strange. Not recommended.

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It is really crazy. I hope I don't look as old as other 45 year olds they show on youtube and tv. I know women are mean to me about my skin, so maybe?????

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I've come to the same conclusion at that age. Retirement is one of the scams, in my opinion, from the 20th century. It, along with the various death taxes, was designed to keep those that were slightly successful from passing the wealth to their family's when they died. Can't have your children get a leg up on life and chance to be more successful...they should pull themselves up by their bootstraps after all like they did.

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Fuck. Yeah. So I never had kids. Retirement is for the "olds".

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Retirement is for the first generation under the New Deal.

Over 75% of the "Greatest Generation" and "Silent Generation" are dead according to this site: https://incendar.com/silent_generation_deathclock.php

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Happy Birthday, man. Have a good one.

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Congrats on making 45.

I know I'll never be able to retire, so what I'm doing now is likely what I'll be doing until I do croak.

I felt the same way a few years back. It’s still possible to succeed in this game where the deck is stacked against you, it just takes a lot of hard work and discipline (and little luck doesn’t hurt, either).

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I'll be 36 next month. I miss my life midsummer. Hook me up with a cousin in Philly suburbs

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Sorry. Not been on the east coast in over a decade. I didn't like Philly or the like when I was there. I get how some people could. but man. being out here....

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Nah hour outside the city Pennsylvania is beautiful. See

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I was always afraid of getting pulled over for nothing being from Jersey.

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I'll be 49 soon but I thought like OP, I'd never make it past 30. I still looks back at my first 20 years and if a pill existed to erase the memories of those years I would do so, without hesitation. I cannot believe the people that surrounded me before I turned 20 were pure trash, including fucks with my last name.

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I know how you feel. I think back and just say, "it shaped me into what I am." I know it was fucked up beyond belief and I've had shrinks just say I was outright lying about some of it. My brother and I tell my mom stuff and she's just amazed we never even told her what was going on. Honestly, we thought it was normal.

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I stopped the "talk therapy" when one of them said "are you sure it happened like that OR how you thought you perceived it?"

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Oh good lord. Yeah. I went to one of those. I went to another to try to get out of an abusive relationship. He insisted I bring my bf and then told me to tell him all the crap that happened to me in childhood, that way he could use it against me and knew exactly how to manipulate me. It was great.

I've been to a ton of talk therapists and I can only think of two that were any good. The one risked her license by telling me to leave him and that she would help. The problem was that she was a drunk and kept missing our appointments. I couldn't rely on her for advice or help.

The one psychiatrist I went to as an adult threatened to toss me in the looney bin (the court appointed ones when I was a kid...don't even get me started), which is exactly what the guy I was trying to leave was saying he would do since his friend did it to his girl. Sigh. Fuckers.

Some do want to help and really can. Others are hacks. I guess it's like anything else.