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I'm in shock still. He was playing soccer with me and his grandkids. He was 56. I'm still lost for words. So well i sat here with my Mom, she asked me to play this song:

https://youtu.be/YBcdt6DsLQA

None of us have been vaccinated. Apparently it was a heart attack from over exertion competing with us during a fun game.

It's ironic because we were laughing at the idiots on that submersible and having a beer, I just got a message he is dead.

I'm in shock still. He was playing soccer with me and his grandkids. He was 56. I'm still lost for words. So well i sat here with my Mom, she asked me to play this song: https://youtu.be/YBcdt6DsLQA None of us have been vaccinated. Apparently it was a heart attack from over exertion competing with us during a fun game. It's ironic because we were laughing at the idiots on that submersible and having a beer, I just got a message he is dead.

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[–] [Sticky] • 2 pts

Most people get too comfortable that they seem to forget we’re only here temporarily, and get in shock when someone close passes away. That’s why we should cherish every moment we share with our loved ones.

You should write a poem to honor him.

Sorry for your loss.

[–] • 2 pts

Like a firefly, in the night sky A withering flame, a candle Lights the table for fame The brightest light.

A wishful star, a contemptuous light A final bite and a final, granduous sight Of all the things lost, all the things right The final fight.

Now we stand here, on the cliffside Where will we abide? Any doubts, I lied. Follow me to the riverside, it's easy to swim Can you see? Follow me.

Don't worry.

It's on a whim.

[–] • 1 pt

Well done!

[–] • 1 pt

Meh. I made it up in a minute or so.

Thanks though.

[–] • 1 pt

the requiem

I woke up tired. Sleepy and itchy eyes.

Where were you? I saw you earlier in a field near home.

You were helping me gather the crops.

I wish you had told me your thoughts.

I sensed something was wrong but you already knew you were gone.

You were so brave and courageous you didn't say a thing.

I love you Dad. Thank you for being so strong and courageous...

Extreme and outrageous.

You taught me everything.

And then you disappeared into the night, with a beautiful song like a swan would sing.

As it passed into the evening light.

Still shining bright.

[–] • 10 pts (edited )

I might be here spontaneously for a bit.. I find this a relaxing place so hopefully I won't be absent much.

Also I realized my Mom's a hippie or just reacting bizarrely.. She was with him for 32 years and she asked me to get her weed and booze. I declined since she never had acted this way and instead got us a bottle of Gran Marnier to relax and go over what needs to be done in this shock.

[–] • 8 pts

She's obviously in a state of mental shock and is asking for the "mind bending" substances she knows, to alter her state of mind

Careful with alcohol, it's not the best of all times to get shit faced

May god give you all the strength you need

[–] • 4 pts

My condolences, when my dad passed a few years ago I "inherited" his stash of weed. Other family gave me some too. It wasn't much but I went out at night once or twice a week catch a buzz and talk with the old fart. It was nice and it helped. I'm not advocating getting your mom high but depending on her personality it may not hurt either.

Again my condolences, it's going to hurt for a while, because it still does.

[–] [deleted] • 2 pts

God speed bro. Loosing a family member like that is hard. Look after yourself and your mom.

[–] • 2 pts

Sorry to hear. RIP Peace and Blessings man.

[–] • 2 pts

My condolences for your very unexpected loss.

Please look after your mom, stress can be deadly.

Best wishes for you and your family,

[–] • 6 pts

Heartfelt condolences to you and your family. Stay strong for each other. Have a lot of good cries and remember the good times. God be with you all.

[–] • 5 pts (edited )

Thanks. We just had a small family meet up and a spontaneous combustion of tears occurred amongst the women and before long I was overwhelmed and had a drip from the eye. My sister noticed and brought a tissue box over to me with my 7 year old nephew who brought me a beer. He's a good kid. I gave him a bottle of cream and strawberries. Told him to make us some smoothies in the blender.

[–] • 6 pts

You hear your whole life that life is short but it doesn't really sink in until you're over 30 and realize that lots of people die younger than 60.

[–] • 3 pts (edited )

Yep agreed. Saw some tedx talk or something - basically have a sheet of paper with 100 squares on it - each square represents a calendar year - cross off the corresponding amount for your age - at best bet not counting on some serious medical issue/ automobile accident or similar tragedy. we can only hope for a hundred years - overwhelming majority will succumb before that - i did it and have already lived just a touch over half my life. Visually seeing it made it somehow more real how short life really is. As each successive year lived is another year closer to the end. All honesty prob have arounds 30 years or so tops left. Meh :-/

so the simple - enjoy the small things in every day, value personal relationships and family/ offspring, be sane, moral sober with a clean conscience and attempt to remain happy regardless of how much clown world honks...

EDIT: Oh, and fck the joos !!

[–] • 5 pts

He was learning to play this on banjo and I'd sing with him.

https://youtu.be/RMLqc7rXKCY FUCK.

[–] • 5 pts

Sorry for your loss, sounds like he was a good man who rised a good son.

Stay strong and look after your mother. If you ever need someone to talk to, I'm here.

[–] • 3 pts (edited )

Thanks Brother.

The toughest part was he was a lot like me. No one else in our family was like him. I guess I'm closest. Fuck I'm pissed off.

[–] • 1 pt

I grew up without a father so my grandpa was the man who raised me, even though he wasn't always there. Everyone still tells me that we are similar both by character and looks.

He died when I was in my early 20s, in a very similar way like you father. Spent a day working in the filed, went to sleep and died from a heart attack during the night.

I was heartbroken, there was so may thing I did in my life at the time that I wanted him to witness as they progress and for him to be proud of me and tell me I'm doing the right thing. He would always advise me and guide me when I didn't know what to do.

Took me long time to accept that he is gone. I realized I must carry on and push through with what he was always telling me to do, so once we meet again he will be there to tell me he is proud of all the work I've done and things I achieved.

[–] • 1 pt (edited )

Thanks Brother. I appreciate your story about your experiences, it may seem weird but it helps to know I'm not alone. I haven't slept since it all happened. Going to make some morning tea and try to sleep since i have bereavement leave.

[–] • 5 pts

Holy Moly, Damn,, that sucks.

I'm sorry for your loss.

[–] • 4 pts

I am very sad for you and your mother both. I am glad that he did get to take part in playing with his grandkids before going though.

I am glad also that his grandkids will have that memory of him playing with them a last time, that it was a special and memorable game instead of just an easily-forgotten time of them playing some game while he sat in a chair somewhere and watched.

[–] • 4 pts

Sorry to hear that. Losing a parrent is incredibly hard.

[–] • 3 pts

Yeah.. it's complicated and tearing me apart. I have to stay strong for mom and my siblings, nieces and nephews though.

[–] • 3 pts

Sorry to hear that. Take the time to grieve. Take care of your mother and yourself first and everything else second. Bro hug.

[–] • 2 pts

The worst part is this is a family reunion so now it's fucked.

[–] • 1 pt

Family reunion. Your family is right there for you and your mother. Talk with them. Be with them. They'll support you if you want them to help you. Over the next few days, you'll want to find out if your father had a will. You'll need to know the executor, take care of his final wishes, etc. If he didn't, everything is fine. It's all in your mother's hands. Take the time later to make sure she's ok with any property, vehicles, bills, etc. Make sure it's all in her name, etc. Post funeral, talk to her about a will, etc. Putting property in a trust and naming you/mom as beneficiaries, etc. Speak with a lawyer, later, tho. Difficult to pass knowledge along in a chat box, to much to type out. Consider making a post later about any specific advice you need , down the road. On here or other sites. There's plenty of intelligent men here and elsewhere that can help you out with advice/knowledge down the road. Talk to your family. Talk to your friends. Take the time you need to process. Talk about your fond memories of him. This is a difficult part to leave you with, but this is very important: Go get his death certificate. Make sure you have that piece of paper. It's different in different places, ask the funeral director for help with it. Be strong for your mom when you can. Good luck, brother

[–] • 1 pt

Important comment. It's crucial to know about the logistics around the passing of a close one. It's already a difficult time. Take care Willem and all my condolences for you and your family.

[–] • 1 pt

Gave her about 5 big hugs. I just turned 31 and she always says I look like him.

[–] • 2 pts

My condolences to you and your family.

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