Whoa whoa hold on.. you’re leaving out the context in which he said this. Jesus is talking about choosing him no matter who is opposed to you, including family who may disagree. There often is a separation between someone who chooses to follow him closely and those in their lives - including family. This happened with me and my (now) ex-wife even. There were other problems, but one major one was that we were going down two different roads spiritually, and those roads only became more and more distanced from one another. God (and thus Jesus) *is* pro-family. He invented the concept of family in the first place, don’t forget. “Thou shall honor thy father and mother” is a commandment that came from him. Now, if a relationship is toxic, it’s sometimes best to exit that relationship..whether it’s a parent, sibling, or spouse is irrelevant..though that can certainly make it more difficult. That may be what Theo is dealing with here. I don’t know because he’s short on details, but that’s his right as I’m sure we can all agree. All that to say, though, that separation of families is not God’s will because it is antithetical to his original design…but even so, sometimes it becomes necessary for a variety of reasons, sad as that may be.