Often enough when you act with the right intention the pain you cause in others is self inflicted. Pain isn't a bad thing, it's a response to something bad and a prompt to change. A thorn in your side tells you to move, a bug on your eye tells you to blink, a dry mouth tells you to drink. Without pain to teach us we would kill ourselves very quickly. Pain is good, it just feels bad when you don't want to move or change. Sometimes you need to cause pain in others to help them, sometimes helping them causes pain, sometimes they are ignorant and cause themselves pain to deny the truth, such as taking a toxic vaccine to fit in. As a father I must manage the pain my child experience. My job isn't to remove it entirely but ensure it exists where required and is minimised where it isn't needed. A good parent isn't the one that removes all pain for their children but rather ensures the pain they feel is correctly framed so that the kid can learn and understand.