As for your vices, the puritans would say, "Take out the wild horses if you wish the wagon to be drawn." Something like that. But really, some folk just want a 'regular job,' they don't wanna work for themselves, they don't wanna be rich, they wanna leave their problems at the job when they come home. Some people wanna teach, for example. There's nothing wrong with that. It depends on how you define 'success.' What makes you happy, while still being a 'responsible' citizen or parent.