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I was gonna write a long post but it got too personal. I have serious issues yet I've been weening myself off of hard alcohol the past few years and down to just drinking beer and I want to be completely alcohol free by the time I turn 40.

It was a promise my grandfather made me agree to a few months before he passed away in 2018. He was the only person in my family that I truly respected because he went through a lot of bad shit in his life. I hit the bottle hard after he died then stopped drinking liquor and switched to beer.

The beer is fucking up my digestive system more than rum and whiskey, and I don't want to look like a bloated beer belly guy. I need to stop. Now. And I'm saying this as I have 2 four packs of 211 in my fridge atm.

AA doesn't work. NA doesn't work. I did 7 months at the Salvation Army Adult Rehabilitation Center and that didn't work. I tried shrooms, DMT, Salvia and those didn't work.

I live in Wisconsin and at least 25% of the state's economy is related to alcohol. There are 14 bars, 4 liquor stores, and 3 stores that sell beer within a 1 mile radius of my home.

I need to move to some state like Utah where it's really difficult to get alcohol.

I need help.

[Beavis & Butthead in Their 50s](https://pic8.co/sh/KOKUYy.png) I was gonna write a long post but it got too personal. I have serious issues yet I've been weening myself off of hard alcohol the past few years and down to just drinking beer and I want to be completely alcohol free by the time I turn 40. It was a promise my grandfather made me agree to a few months before he passed away in 2018. He was the only person in my family that I truly respected because he went through a lot of bad shit in his life. I hit the bottle hard after he died then stopped drinking liquor and switched to beer. The beer is fucking up my digestive system more than rum and whiskey, and I don't want to look like a bloated beer belly guy. I need to stop. Now. And I'm saying this as I have 2 four packs of 211 in my fridge atm. AA doesn't work. NA doesn't work. I did 7 months at the Salvation Army Adult Rehabilitation Center and that didn't work. I tried shrooms, DMT, Salvia and those didn't work. I live in Wisconsin and at least 25% of the state's economy is related to alcohol. There are 14 bars, 4 liquor stores, and 3 stores that sell beer within a 1 mile radius of my home. I need to move to some state like Utah where it's really difficult to get alcohol. I need help.

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[–] • 6 pts

And I'm saying this as I have 2 four packs of 211 in my fridge atm.

Go dump those out immediately for starters. And then find 2 things. A purpose for quitting, which it sounds like you have, at least partially, in your promise to your grandpa. And also productive routines to fill in the time you used to occupy with drinking. Fitness is the most obvious one. But pick up a new skill, book learning or otherwise and commit to working on it every day when you would have otherwise been drinking. In the end, only you can help yourself, if you don't have the willpower to choose to quit then nobody's suggestions will help you.

I was drinking ultra heavily after my baby died. And when I realized how bad it had gotten I just quit on the spot and haven't had a drop since. I craved it for a while and drank ginger beers for a bit and then sparkling waters but I lost the taste or desire for alcohol more quickly than I thought. If you fully quit you are going to crave sugar so don't become a fat fuck that way. I started working out more seriously again and spent my evenings after the kids went to bed studying math and reading other trade skill books rather than having a couple beers.

Find someone IRL to help hold you accountable.

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I honestly don't have anyone in my life who is 100% sober. All my friends, coworkers, and extended family members are all addicts. My mom smokes weed. My sister bartends on the weekends.

In the early 2000s I was involved in the straightedge metalcore scene in my area and became acquainted with Andy Hurley - drummer of Falloutboy before he even joined the band. It was a bit weird because there was a big scene of guys aged 16-25 who did nothing but create some of heaviest and aggressive music I've ever heard, and once the scene got overtaken by MySpace emo kids, it died and a lot of people dropped their "edge" and started drinking and going along with the booze culture in Wisconsin. I kinda wish that the edge scene would back so at least I could have something to fall back on.

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Excuses. Get your shit together. You're better than this.

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START a new scene. Advertise on CL, local FB pages, whatever. When I got sober I did this, to put a new band together. 'Sober players only'. Took a while, but I eventually found sober folks and put together one of the hottest bands in my area, and we gigged all the time in clubs where everyone but us were getting shitfaced. It CAN be done, I know it. AGGRESSIVELY seek out sober players, and lead by example. You will be helping fellow travelers as much as yourself.