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Confusing to say the least, seeing as she had already accepted, but now she's having second thoughts about whether we should be together or not. She comes from a very heavy Christian background, like super fundamentalist. How fundamentalist? Like having feelings of attraction to someone is a sin kind of bad. The problem is she loves being intimate with me, but on the other hand she feels horribly guilty and ashamed of being too intimate with me, like she legitimately feels like God will punish her and send her to hell over it (her words).

I can understand the God fearing angle, but this goes straight against the concepts of the NT, which don' t mention any of this. She also believes salvation can be lost, or rather that one can never truly be saved unless they live a blameless and sinless life. Seeing as the Bible literally mentions this is absolutely impossible to do, hence the coming of Jesus, I have absolutely no idea how she plans on accomplishing this feat either. That was the entire point of Jesus being crucified, for the forgiveness of the sins of man.

This wouldn't be a big deal, but she's already been super intimiate with me, and she thinks were simply moving too fast. This is super confusing as well, because she made no mention or even hinted at a notice that this would be or is a problem. Plus if we're engaged, I would think there would be more leeway than casually dating, but apparently not. Now im just horribly confused what's going on

Confusing to say the least, seeing as she had already accepted, but now she's having second thoughts about whether we should be together or not. She comes from a very heavy Christian background, like super fundamentalist. How fundamentalist? Like having feelings of attraction to someone is a sin kind of bad. The problem is she loves being intimate with me, but on the other hand she feels horribly guilty and ashamed of being too intimate with me, like she legitimately feels like God will punish her and send her to hell over it (her words). I can understand the God fearing angle, but this goes straight against the concepts of the NT, which don' t mention any of this. She also believes salvation can be lost, or rather that one can never truly be saved unless they live a blameless and sinless life. Seeing as the Bible literally mentions this is absolutely impossible to do, hence the coming of Jesus, I have absolutely no idea how she plans on accomplishing this feat either. That was the entire point of Jesus being crucified, for the forgiveness of the sins of man. This wouldn't be a big deal, but she's already been super intimiate with me, and she thinks were simply moving too fast. This is super confusing as well, because she made no mention or even hinted at a notice that this would be or is a problem. Plus if we're engaged, I would think there would be more leeway than casually dating, but apparently not. Now im just horribly confused what's going on

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Great advice. Listen to this OP. Your courting time is precious.

Her bio clock is ticking much quicker than yours. It's ok to just relax and go about building a life for yourself to grow spiritually and mature as a man. Women are usually happier with a husband similar in personality to her father. Have you thought about how you fit with her family? Do they welcome you into their home?

Her parents love me, they get along great with me. The problem is she thinks things are moving too fast and she's having sort of a mental breakdown over how well things are going. I think this is because im her only real serious relationship, so she's not really sure how to process everything