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Been with this girl for over a year. It's honestly been the most wholesome, reliable and serious relationship I've ever had (I'm in my mid twenties and haven't had many serious relationships). I've been part of this redpilling, awakening process for well over six years now, so when I stumbled across this White women (she's 31) who could take care of herself, cook, be smart, funny, reliable with money, independent and isn't in any way obsessed with her phone or the toxic culture of materialism, and didn't at all seem like she'd rode along the dick carousel most her adult life, well, I looked past her mild looks and saw the person who I wanted to be with. The person who could potentially mother our children and not have to worry about her whoring out on Saturday nights or being a massive cunt because of whatever the digital jew sends through her phone.

So a good year has passed, and we're settling down a bit, but two things have become immensely troublesome for me: the first and most important is that she is not interested, at all, in having children (her reasons being because the world is shit and who would want to raise a child, and because her mother fell terminally ill after her last pregnancy). The second thing is I'm starting to notice that I am less and less attracted to her physically. This may in part be due to the first point, because I do, absolutely, want children while I am relatively young.

So I'm met with this problem, I've found an amazing 5.5/10 women, who I get along with very well and have started settling down with, but her not wanting children at 31 is present and a problem, and her lack of typical attractiveness is becoming more and more flagrant and I'm starting to feel really shit about having these thoughts. It's just, and this sounds awful, but I never have a moment where she walks through the door and I think to myself "Holy shit she's gorgeous". That just never happens and I'm thinking fuck, I don't like where this is going.

And for context, I hate to suck my own dick, but this is also a problem that I myself am far from unattractive. I workout regularly, have a decent paying job, and do emit alpha tendencies (the redpilling has done wonders to mental strength and rigidity). I often get flirted with or get looks when out, and I can't help feel that I'm not in a position where it would be too hard to find a mate who is more attractive and wants kids.

There I said it.

Been with this girl for over a year. It's honestly been the most wholesome, reliable and serious relationship I've ever had (I'm in my mid twenties and haven't had many serious relationships). I've been part of this redpilling, awakening process for well over six years now, so when I stumbled across this White women (she's 31) who could take care of herself, cook, be smart, funny, reliable with money, independent and isn't in any way obsessed with her phone or the toxic culture of materialism, and didn't at all seem like she'd rode along the dick carousel most her adult life, well, I looked past her mild looks and saw the person who I wanted to be with. The person who could potentially mother our children and not have to worry about her whoring out on Saturday nights or being a massive cunt because of whatever the digital jew sends through her phone. So a good year has passed, and we're settling down a bit, but two things have become immensely troublesome for me: the first and most important is that she is not interested, at all, in having children (her reasons being because the world is shit and who would want to raise a child, and because her mother fell terminally ill after her last pregnancy). The second thing is I'm starting to notice that I am less and less attracted to her physically. This may in part be due to the first point, because I do, absolutely, want children while I am relatively young. So I'm met with this problem, I've found an amazing 5.5/10 women, who I get along with very well and have started settling down with, but her not wanting children at 31 is present and a problem, and her lack of typical attractiveness is becoming more and more flagrant and I'm starting to feel really shit about having these thoughts. It's just, and this sounds awful, but I never have a moment where she walks through the door and I think to myself "Holy shit she's gorgeous". That just never happens and I'm thinking fuck, I don't like where this is going. And for context, I hate to suck my own dick, but this is also a problem that I myself am far from unattractive. I workout regularly, have a decent paying job, and do emit alpha tendencies (the redpilling has done wonders to mental strength and rigidity). I often get flirted with or get looks when out, and I can't help feel that I'm not in a position where it would be too hard to find a mate who is more attractive and wants kids. There I said it.

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1) I will not hesitate to put myself and my needs/wants in priority when making decisions regardless of how the other party feels, this is particularly true in social situations for example if I want to leave prematurely or turn down an invitation. 2) Throughout my life I've changed lifestyle (hometown, country, friends, relationships, etc.) repeatedly and thus get thrown off quickly with serious relationships regardless of how good it's supposedly going. 3) I overthink shit constantly without sharing the problem, often leading me to make decisions/come to conclusions that seem impulsive or irrational to the other party who has no idea it's been on my mind.

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  1. So you make yourself a doormat? How are you working to address that? And, in your relationship, you've clearly put your natural instincts to be a father, aside, to accommodate your GF's dysfunctional perception of children. So you have a directly relevant piece of evidence for this weakness.

  2. This is not a weakness. This is just a set of life circumstances. A weakness about you could be that you are indecisive and wishy washy like a high school girl and your self-governance leaves something to be desired. Something like that.

  3. Directly relevant to your situation. Express yourself to your GF.

If your GF can accommodate your genuine biological need to be a father and a husband, will you stay?

Brother, do not get me wrong: I understand you need to be attracted to your spouse. A woman can have a rocking body well into her 60s. She has to work at it. Just like you do. Have her workout with you.

And also work through that child thing with her. If she is unwilling to compromise, you need to break up now, not later.

Focus the "cannon" on yourself. Reflect on your weaknesses. And work on them. You'll find your life's problems are often related to your own faults in some way shape or form. And it looks like you've hit it with 2 out of 3 of your items.

I'm similar to you: very fit, naturally handsome, great education, great job. I used to be a doormat. But I learned how to setup boundaries. I have left girls flabbergasted by rejecting them for stuff I do not accept such as smoking or drinking all the time. But I have boundaries. Before I ask anyone to be my GF, they get the "want kids?" question. If they say no, immediate peace out. Also, if they want me to do some stupid kinky sex stuff like shit on them or beat them, I'm out. No butthole, shit, or beating in my relationships.

Put your foot down. Setup healthy boundaries. Keep looking. If you're as confident and fit as you say you are, you will have no problems finding someone else.

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I appreciate the response brother. Peace.