Thanks for the replies. A little back story: SpouseAnon has prostate cancer noted as "high risk". He went through 40 rounds of radiation summer of 2020 that helped his psa drop to normal. He's been also using fenbenzole Pana-CurC as a boost. Takes it daily now. Doctor put him on a course of hormones to restrict testosterone as he feared surgery would spread the cancer. It's been 2 weeks and his red blood drooped, his white count is up and feels like shit. He was very pale. So he decided to stop that med. I pushed him into to seeking IV infusion therapy and other natural to help the anemia. VA is useless as expected. It's the government and Medicare is about the same. You'll die waiting for them to get off their asses. His memory suxs so I'm in charge of all the bills and appointments. I would do anything. Take his place. If only I could.
My uncle has stage 4 cancer that came from prostate cancer as well. He's the type who doesn't like to make a fuss, so his whole family doesn't really talk about it. It's so difficult to know where he's at. He's come over every weekend and just want to help me with projects around the house to keep his mind off it. So I never really pestered him too much about the scary stuff.
He started taking some "miracle drug" (that's like $13,000 a month, horrible!) that really puts the cancer at bay for up to 3 years before the cancer starts to become immune to the treatment. At one point his scans even looked cancer free. Of course, I think it continuously keeps coming back since it's impossible to get every single cell.
If your husband wants to fight, try throwing everything and the kitchen sink at it. Oils, dog dewormers (Panacur C), the horrible treatments (chemo/whatever docs suggest), etc. My uncle was touch and go for a while. Sometimes really ill. At one point my brother said they thought he was on his death bed, but recently he's been traveling tons. I believe he's in Japan at the moment. Cancer is a huge psychological battle, and I pray people like your husband and my uncle find themselves to be one of the miracle cases.
Of course, I know we all have to die eventually. I just said goodbye to my dog on 4/22. My best friend from high school picked that dog out before she died, so it brought back some of that hurt. My doggo was slowly declining as her organs shut down over the course of a few days and then had a seizure as she died at home. While I needed a few days to cry nonstop, there was a little comfort in knowing the suffering was done. The hardest part isn't the death itself, but the battle you're in right now. After that it's a shallow sting that follows you for quite some time as you try to learn how to find fulfillment without someone who was a part of your day-to-day life. If you ever need anyone to talk to just let me know!
My most sincere condolences for your husband's suffering.
It's easy to drown in despair, hopelessness, and uncertainty. Is there someone in your family who can help you plan positive, emotionally recharging, events for you and your spouse? You're going to need help, if you haven't asked people it's time now.
May god hold you in the palm of his hand
If the VA won't provide you with the services you want, you can go elsewhere and the VA will pay for it.
"He's been also using fenbenzole Pana-CurC"
I've heard of that! My ex-wife's dad is a retired veterinarian and he showed me the whole thing about that and cancer. Says back in the day, that drug showed anti-cancer attributes.
I was about to post the information but I see you obviously already have it. So I guess it's not working, though, based on what you say....
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