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I’m just so tired, friends.

I’m tired of being estranged from my 34 year old indoctrinated son, who has had PLENTY of ‘non-indoctrination’ upbringing and influence. If you don’t have children, please, hold your comments.

I’m tired of my 27 year old based daughter not being able to find a based man that is not jabbed.

I’m tired and pissed to realize I may never have grand children.

I’m tired of my step-mother- in-law attempting to put my father in law in a nursing home because she has sucked all his money out over the years, and no longer wants to deal with him. Over 40 years married, but 20 years apart in age. She cheated on her first husband with my father in law and abandoned her 3 and 4 year old girls to marry him. Vile.

I’m just tired.

I’m just so tired, friends. I’m tired of being estranged from my 34 year old indoctrinated son, who has had PLENTY of ‘non-indoctrination’ upbringing and influence. If you don’t have children, please, hold your comments. I’m tired of my 27 year old based daughter not being able to find a based man that is not jabbed. I’m tired and pissed to realize I may never have grand children. I’m tired of my step-mother- in-law attempting to put my father in law in a nursing home because she has sucked all his money out over the years, and no longer wants to deal with him. Over 40 years married, but 20 years apart in age. She cheated on her first husband with my father in law and abandoned her 3 and 4 year old girls to marry him. Vile. I’m just tired.

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[–] [deleted] • 0 pt

I've never met a person who believes in forced positivity and was happy and successful in their life.

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I'm hardly an expert in it. But I can tell you that presently I am very happy in my life and I have obvious reasons for being so. I have not always been very happy and have gone though quite significant personal "deserts" of happiness in the past. Though, if I was to be completely honest I would say that generally I have an optimistic personality and have since I was a child so this perspective has likely come more naturally to me than it might to others.

I don't personally see it as "forced positivity" as much as "choice of focus". I live in a world of infinite thoughts, objects, relationships and opportunities. If I an inclined to notice the negative then the world around me will provide me ample opportunity to do so. Likewise, if I am driven to focus on, to feed and to notice the opportunities and blessings in my life I can also choose to do that as the world will also provide me with those opportunities as well.

Over time we will generate patterns in the ways that our brains think and the ways that we navigate through the world. Those patterns will make our focus even MORE focused in time, almost cementing our relationship with the world and creating the belief that the world is strictly objective and only fools see it differently than "I do". In my belief this world is not objective, but rather subjective, depending on the relationship each object (me and you) has with it.

God bless you brother.

However you choose to live your life, I hope it feels you with all the experiences you are seeking!

[–] [deleted] • 0 pt

A few years ago I've read about a longitudinal study where they did the following:

They asked students how likely they rate their chance of another person saying yes when they ask them out on a date, how likely they rate their chance of finding a job etc.

Basically figuring out how confident and optimistic they are. And then every 5 years or so they observed how well they performed.

What they found, is that those who were slightly pessimistic did significantly better than those who were optimistic. And the overly optimistic and confident performed the worst. The reason is that pessimists took more chances, had a better time dealing with rejection (since they anticipated it), and were pleasently surprised whenever they did succeed.

Basically, the self confident optimists asked one woman out, or wrote one job application, were rejected, and then felt devestated.

The pessimists wrote 100 applications, were accepted on 10, and felt happy.

In all areas of life those who were slightly pessimistic (not so pessimistic they didn't bother trying at all), outperformed the optimists. Including health, because the pessimist goes to the doctor or changes his diet, whereas the optimist just hopes for the best.

Now if optimism and always focusing on the bright side of things worked out for you, great. I just hope it's not just because you learned to ignore misery, which is what I have observed in almost anyone who preaches stuff like the law of attraction.

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That's a fascinating study.

I can't say I completly agree with the use of the qualifiers "optimist" and "pessimist" in the situation, however.

This sounds more like measurement of narcissism. Narcissists think that they are the best, not optimists. If you ask a person how many people would agree to go on a date with them out of 100 and they say 100 that is a sign of narcissism. Not optimism. That's like black person narcissism. Peacocking.

If someone asked me how many people would agree to go out with me out of 100 my response would be "I have no idea... But I'll guarantee I'm gonna meet some interesting people!"

In my opinion that's more along the lines of how an optimist thinks.

But I could be wrong.

I've been enjoying the conversation.