Its amazing how many people decided I wasnt worth having around because I wasnt going to get the death jab. Several actually told me point blank I wasnt welcome to come to their house anymore, unless I went and got the vax. No more group activity invites, people stopped texting, started being late to answer texts, acted like they didnt know what was going on, etc...
Several have tried to chat since its "blown over", mostly to ask my help with things. I told them to screw off. Since they felt that way before. I dont want to talk to them at all now, much less help them.
The only one that bothered me really, was the weekly IRL DND group. just 4-6 guys show up, have a beer or 2, roll some dice, bullshit. 2 said they would no longer come, if i wasnt vaxxed, not to me, not in the group text, but in a text to the rest of the group, the host went with his wife, no vaxx, no house. Him I can blame less. its hard to fight the wife on who can come to the house. - The best revenge. One of the 2 who wouldnt show up anymore... the most liberal one. was obese 5'10 400#, and suffered badly from the vax. spent several months in the hospital after shot 2.
That sucks dude.
My dad did the same to me last Thanksgiving. We aren't always on the best of terms, but we usually at least see each other for major Holidays.
My brother told me they were all having Thanksgiving together, and I actually would've understood if my Father told me I wasn't invited because I wasn't vaccinated. But I tried calling him, he didn't pick up.
So I just texted him Happy Thanksgiving.
And then I texted him Merry Christmas.
And I didn't get a response until I texted him Happy Birthday, right around New Year.
I don't think I'll ever see him again, which kind of sucks.
You will. Just keep on calling, keep on texting. Your interval is too low. You need to increase your interval to something much more persuasive, like once a week on a Friday.
You won't believe how many people you can convince through a simple water erosion technique. You can EASILY wear them down.
Your calling frequency is allowing the enemy to dicate the terms of your relationship with your father. Change the frequency and you will see results.
It's basic sales technique, we all work the same.
Life's kind of weird like that.
As a kid you grow up usually respecting your parents. Sometimes they're a hero to you.
Figures of authority are seen as knowledgeable and trustworthy.
Then you get older and look around and realize how dumb a vast majority of people are. Then you realize that you're the age of the authority figures you looked up to as a kid.
Ignorance is bliss you see.
If you really want to hit your father in his feelings you could try sincerely forgiving him for the way he has been treating you. After all you must understand that he has strong feelings about the vaccines even if they aren't his own.
You could even say the psychiatrist you're seeing regarding the depression and anxiety you are going through suggested that you do so.
Or you could do none of that. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Dumb is the incorrect frame because it forces you to look at the problem at too low of a resolution. If you zoom in just a bit and apply animal psychology to the analysis you can literally start to catalog the separate subsystems in our heads, how they work independently and within a multi-network context and how that translates to your families behaviour.
It is trivial to hack family, but, it does take time, persistence and most importantly discipline. Not a lot of discipline but some.
Sorry to read that. Sometimes parents act in ways that teach us to turn left at points where they have turned right. Mine did, which I applied as a father.
See that sucks way worse.
These werent people I've known all my life or anything. I didnt move to where im at until mid 2ks, didnt meet most of them until mid 10's and some late 10's
Losing the father, thats beyond losing a bunch of half ass friends.
In some regards, I guess I am lucky. I faced that at 14. But we werent at all close then...
I have so many questions I want to ask him, especially about family history, before he dies.
But he was willing to deny me because the Television told him too.
Brings up a lot of feels.
What happened with your Father?
"and i won't forget to put roses on your grave."
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