Important things to remember: 1) Don't assume the gender of your theyby. Assuming and raising your theyby as either male or female instead of letting him/her/they/ze/zir tell you is harmful. 2) Racism is learned early on. Don't ever (you shouldn't ever anyway) talk about certain ethnicities, nationalities, etc. as inferior. 3) If you need a list of good books, let me know. Make sure to focus heavily on books that have positive messages about other races, orientations, etc. For example, there are a ton of excellent books out there on the LGBTQAIPK community. 4) Don't enforce white, patriarchial, colonist roles at home or anywhere. Let your theyby know that daddies can get pregnant and mothers can be fathers. 5) It's never too early to discuss systemic racism with a theyby. Conversations centered around how Black people have been and are discriminated against by whites and the plethora of murders of Black men and women by whites is a good place to start. These are just a few things to remember as you welcome the arrival of your theyby. Congratulations.