Having dealt with cancer on many levels my strong suggestion is to stop adopting the "fight" mantra that everyone projects on you and him and instead adopt the "enjoy everyday day" true situation. It both makes each day worth while and makes things easier.
Also we all are going to die one day. Those around us need to accept that too. That means you. Don't make your last days ignore that because after it's over important things will have been left unsaid and discussed or planned for.
The "fighter" mantra assumes more control than the cancer victim has and adds another layer of burden to their days. They don't have control. Stop foisting it on them and making their days worse by making them think it's up to them or their failure.
Just enjoy time together. You'll be glad you did when it's over whether it's this month or 20 years from now.
Can they at least have a 'FUCK CANCER!' bumper sticker? Because that is a real game-changer!
I literally laughed out loud.
Ops husband ahould read this thread.
hahaha reminds me of the meme Jesus holding a laughing baby with the caption, "I just gave you cancer".
fuck Joe Biden first, then cancer
thats a beautiful statement. those sunrises and sunsets mean so much more now.
That is how ive always felt. Its not like people that survive cancer all fought better- it just wasn't their time.
This is an interesting thought. When you believe you are in a "fight", you feel stressed. Brain dumps out cortisol (the stress hormone) into the bloodstream, causing inflammation and a weakening of the immune system.
This is why "staying positive" has literal, physical benefits for recovering from any illness. When you're positive, enjoying every moment as you said, you are not stressed. Your body can expend its resources more effectively on fighting off w/e ails you.
I believe a lot of people who "died from covid" actually just had the flu. But they were told they have the world-killing virus, forced into quarantine, unable to see their families when hospitalized. Unable to do anything they enjoy, just lay in a hospital bed for days and days and days, feeling like shit. The symptoms worsen, it looks like they're taking a turn for the worst. Time for the ventillator. Now, the patient is absolutely certain "I am going to die, and I cannot see my family." They may sort of... give up. Then they die. All because of "covid", according to the doctors (whom are the 3rd leading cause of death in the USA, probably the 1st now).
classic nocebo
I like your philosophy.
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