Kind of amazing when it all starts to make sense, eh? There are to separate categories of stuff in your story: 1) Human Animal Nature - As we all grow older, if we are lucky to be present of mind, we all learn how the human animal works. It's like training a dog, cat or horse to do tricks. Each animal is a mammal so roughly identical but with VERY SPECIFIC psychological and physiological differences. So, each animal will roughly act like any mammal, however, the way you train each species needs to be tailored for the species. Once you start to understand humans as a species (or at least 7 different species) you start to understand how we work. The important part of learning how our species works is this: Our parents are fallible humans. They were thrown into a chaotic world from the loins of their parents. Whom, likewise, were thrown into a chaotic world from the loins of the previous generation and so forth. People will often tell you to forgive and forget or to just get over it. This is WRONG advice because all it does is bury the symptoms, it doesn't address the proper way to deal with this knowledge. Instead, as we all learn to how our species works, we all end up understanding our parents through our own mistakes. Eventually we all live long enough to have made similar mistakes as our parents. And, if we are wise enough, we learn to not just accept our parents mistakes, we learn to APPRECIATE the mistakes for the glorious poor choices they made in the chaos of the moment they found them selves in. My mother hates a portion of me because I look like my father. I'm okay with that 100%. Not only do I understand it, I can FULLY APPRECIATE it now because it is natural for some parents to hate their children. If anything, I am grateful to just be alive. Forgiveness is for losers. Instead, one must reach this base understanding of the human animal and an appreciation that our parents can only make the poor choices they made as they made them. That is true peace in my opinion. 2) Training - Believe it or not, A LOT of what you describe can be addressed with PROPER TRAINING. I have access to specific domains of knowledge in this space and every time I read one of these stories I know of a series of tools that are available right now to help our people. We cannot go into the past to help our people. But, what we can do is build the kinds of infrastructure that helps our people find them selves again, find their own people, find their way home BY PROVIDING THE SKILLS AND TOOLING THEY NEED TO BUILD THEIR FUTURES AND SUCCEED. The work to build this has started. Some of you may be asked to jump on board and help at the right time and place.