Psychopaths are capable of blending in and even being popular and successful. Sociopaths tend to be more chaotic and overtly self-destructive. I'd say psychopaths are basically just socially and financially ambitious sociopaths. That's why many end up as CEOs and world leaders. What you describe yourself as I wouldn't call either of those. DnD nerds would call you a chaotic neutral. I'd say that's where I land. I care if my wife and kids die, but I wouldn't be moved by anyone else really...not that I can imagine. I despise initiation of violence but I know what I'm capable of when it's necessary, and I don't even want to imagine what I'd do to someone who harmed my wife or kids.