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Hard times are coming, and emotional maturity will keep you strong. I've listened to men complain about things that don't matter, or make issues for themselves that can be solved with a simple shift in perspective.

For myself, I study Stoicism. I find it helps me weave through life's more unimportant emotional demands, and focus my emotional energy on where it will benefit most. Ex: A man complains of his wife complaining. Pretty common. I look at my wife's complaining as information I can use to gauge her mental health, the issues she's dealing with, etc. I don't solve my wife's problems, I just listen. I do not add her burden to my own. I simply offer advice when appropriate and I don't bring the subject up again. I do all this with respect and kindness.

I would challenge you to ask yourself how emotionally mature you are. Be honest with the answer. Think heavy on it. Dig around in areas that are uncomfortable for you. And then accept your answer.... if you're good, you're good. If you need to work on things, you know what to do.

Hard times are coming, and emotional maturity will keep you strong. I've listened to men complain about things that don't matter, or make issues for themselves that can be solved with a simple shift in perspective. For myself, I study Stoicism. I find it helps me weave through life's more unimportant emotional demands, and focus my emotional energy on where it will benefit most. Ex: A man complains of his wife complaining. Pretty common. I look at my wife's complaining as information I can use to gauge her mental health, the issues she's dealing with, etc. I don't solve my wife's problems, I just listen. I do not add her burden to my own. I simply offer advice when appropriate and I don't bring the subject up again. I do all this with respect and kindness. I would challenge you to ask yourself how emotionally mature you are. Be honest with the answer. Think heavy on it. Dig around in areas that are uncomfortable for you. And then accept your answer.... if you're good, you're good. If you need to work on things, you know what to do.

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[–] [deleted] • 0 pt

Imagine you are the king and everytime you make a law the queen changes it because she thinks you are stupid. Imagine trying to drive a car and your wife keeps grabbing the wheel because she thinks you don't know where you are going. Leadership cannot work if the other person will not follow. That is why most marriages fail. The woman thinks she is equal and that you can both lead equally. That is impossible. Most women solidified their perception of men at age 16. They still think men are teenagers and they are smater than them.

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Some men are not meant to lead......

[–] [deleted] • 0 pt

Men are not meant to lead a woman who will not follow.

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You keep this perspective, and you won't grow. If this is your situation, you are the one responsible for it. Take personal responsibility, and lead your way out of it. Don't know how?.. Go seek advice from men you trust. Successful men with marriages you admire. The only other option is to point a finger at someone else and declare THEM the problem, leaving you mentally free to claim victimhood.

Imagine you are the king, and every time you make a law, the queen TRIES to change it, but she can't, because you're the king. Imagine driving a car and your wife grabs the wheel because she thinks you don't know where you're going.... I can, and I can also imagine the conclusion to that scenario.