Welcome • User Guide
ToS • Privacy • Canary
Donate • Bugs • License

©2026 Poal.co

901

Hard times are coming, and emotional maturity will keep you strong. I've listened to men complain about things that don't matter, or make issues for themselves that can be solved with a simple shift in perspective.

For myself, I study Stoicism. I find it helps me weave through life's more unimportant emotional demands, and focus my emotional energy on where it will benefit most. Ex: A man complains of his wife complaining. Pretty common. I look at my wife's complaining as information I can use to gauge her mental health, the issues she's dealing with, etc. I don't solve my wife's problems, I just listen. I do not add her burden to my own. I simply offer advice when appropriate and I don't bring the subject up again. I do all this with respect and kindness.

I would challenge you to ask yourself how emotionally mature you are. Be honest with the answer. Think heavy on it. Dig around in areas that are uncomfortable for you. And then accept your answer.... if you're good, you're good. If you need to work on things, you know what to do.

Hard times are coming, and emotional maturity will keep you strong. I've listened to men complain about things that don't matter, or make issues for themselves that can be solved with a simple shift in perspective. For myself, I study Stoicism. I find it helps me weave through life's more unimportant emotional demands, and focus my emotional energy on where it will benefit most. Ex: A man complains of his wife complaining. Pretty common. I look at my wife's complaining as information I can use to gauge her mental health, the issues she's dealing with, etc. I don't solve my wife's problems, I just listen. I do not add her burden to my own. I simply offer advice when appropriate and I don't bring the subject up again. I do all this with respect and kindness. I would challenge you to ask yourself how emotionally mature you are. Be honest with the answer. Think heavy on it. Dig around in areas that are uncomfortable for you. And then accept your answer.... if you're good, you're good. If you need to work on things, you know what to do.

(post is archived)

You are currently inside a comment thread.
Click here to see all the comments (42).
[–] [deleted] • 1 pt

Wives that constantly complain are usually complaining about their husband. They don't trust them and they think their husbands are retarded children. She is not complaining that her car broke down, she is complaining about her husband's inability to make more money for her to buy a better car. She is not complaining about her shity day at work, she is complaining that her husband doesn't let stay at home. No matter what your perspective is, she will be unhappy with reality and it it's all your fault.

[–] [deleted] • 0 pt

You are incorrect, though you may be correct for your particular situation.

[–] [deleted] • 0 pt

You must be mistaking a nagging/complaining wife with one that just wants to talk about her day. There is a big difference.

[–] [deleted] • 0 pt

I've made no mistakes. It's the matter of perspective that dictates if she's 'nagging' or 'talking'. It's also how a man reacts to the discourse that can affect the tone. When my wife nags, I can get angry, start an argument, and there goes that energy, or, I listen reasonably and let it run it's course, preferably if while I'm engaged in other activities. (I've had to tell her, in our past, that she can talk, but she'll have to follow me around while I get shit done)

Also, marital interaction wasn't the point of my post, simply an example.