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Hard times are coming, and emotional maturity will keep you strong. I've listened to men complain about things that don't matter, or make issues for themselves that can be solved with a simple shift in perspective.

For myself, I study Stoicism. I find it helps me weave through life's more unimportant emotional demands, and focus my emotional energy on where it will benefit most. Ex: A man complains of his wife complaining. Pretty common. I look at my wife's complaining as information I can use to gauge her mental health, the issues she's dealing with, etc. I don't solve my wife's problems, I just listen. I do not add her burden to my own. I simply offer advice when appropriate and I don't bring the subject up again. I do all this with respect and kindness.

I would challenge you to ask yourself how emotionally mature you are. Be honest with the answer. Think heavy on it. Dig around in areas that are uncomfortable for you. And then accept your answer.... if you're good, you're good. If you need to work on things, you know what to do.

Hard times are coming, and emotional maturity will keep you strong. I've listened to men complain about things that don't matter, or make issues for themselves that can be solved with a simple shift in perspective. For myself, I study Stoicism. I find it helps me weave through life's more unimportant emotional demands, and focus my emotional energy on where it will benefit most. Ex: A man complains of his wife complaining. Pretty common. I look at my wife's complaining as information I can use to gauge her mental health, the issues she's dealing with, etc. I don't solve my wife's problems, I just listen. I do not add her burden to my own. I simply offer advice when appropriate and I don't bring the subject up again. I do all this with respect and kindness. I would challenge you to ask yourself how emotionally mature you are. Be honest with the answer. Think heavy on it. Dig around in areas that are uncomfortable for you. And then accept your answer.... if you're good, you're good. If you need to work on things, you know what to do.

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I've found that a lot of so-called open-minded people are not really that open minded, they just want other people to be completely open-minded, without a hint of resistance, so they can bend others to their will or persuade them into joining their religious body/ cult. "Spiritual awakening" to hippies can often mean tripping out in a peculiar way, but I include people who latch on to ideas about that which can not be observed, and then assert it as truth using fallacious reasoning. Eastern meditation for example- people assume the feelings of euphoria are "spiritual", when in actual fact it is extremely unnatural for you to have such low brain-activity for such a long period of time, and the body pulses out dopamine as if you were hurt.

Unwillingness to learn about new ideas is like the Odinists (mostly LARPers) who object to religions/ philosophies from "desert people," perhaps not realising that Stoicism came from a Phoenician founder (Zeno), and we are literally named after Europa, a Phoenician Princess in Greek Legend.
I close my mind through gradual reasoning and exploration of evidence, not through pre-conditioned reaction or emotion. If I have already thought about something and come to a solid conclusion, there is no reason for me to remain open to the ideas, just because the same ideas are coming from new people.