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Hard times are coming, and emotional maturity will keep you strong. I've listened to men complain about things that don't matter, or make issues for themselves that can be solved with a simple shift in perspective.

For myself, I study Stoicism. I find it helps me weave through life's more unimportant emotional demands, and focus my emotional energy on where it will benefit most. Ex: A man complains of his wife complaining. Pretty common. I look at my wife's complaining as information I can use to gauge her mental health, the issues she's dealing with, etc. I don't solve my wife's problems, I just listen. I do not add her burden to my own. I simply offer advice when appropriate and I don't bring the subject up again. I do all this with respect and kindness.

I would challenge you to ask yourself how emotionally mature you are. Be honest with the answer. Think heavy on it. Dig around in areas that are uncomfortable for you. And then accept your answer.... if you're good, you're good. If you need to work on things, you know what to do.

Hard times are coming, and emotional maturity will keep you strong. I've listened to men complain about things that don't matter, or make issues for themselves that can be solved with a simple shift in perspective. For myself, I study Stoicism. I find it helps me weave through life's more unimportant emotional demands, and focus my emotional energy on where it will benefit most. Ex: A man complains of his wife complaining. Pretty common. I look at my wife's complaining as information I can use to gauge her mental health, the issues she's dealing with, etc. I don't solve my wife's problems, I just listen. I do not add her burden to my own. I simply offer advice when appropriate and I don't bring the subject up again. I do all this with respect and kindness. I would challenge you to ask yourself how emotionally mature you are. Be honest with the answer. Think heavy on it. Dig around in areas that are uncomfortable for you. And then accept your answer.... if you're good, you're good. If you need to work on things, you know what to do.

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I read The Meditations recently. I think Aurelius is my favorite philosopher. I think he's the reason I learned to use ego and how to separate its use from the frame of humility that governs the rest of my life and practices.

Stoicism really is the answer. Finding out which things are worth affording your attention and emotions and cataloging them is an important part of emotional maturity. Most people let too many burdens they'll never overcome weigh them down and refuse to accept those circumstances. Well done, OP. Good post. We need more like that here.

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Just downloaded that the other day.

Also some other classics of similar variety to broaden and reinforce myself for the coming times.

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Embrace rage, anger, wrath, embrace hatred, vengeance, retribution, become petty, spiteful, spurned, become malicious, destructive, even murderous. Violence and aggression are the answer.

The best thing to do is get back in touch with all those emotions and human qualities our society had long taught us to reject and repress, we have had this side of us neutered from out nature's, and we must get back in touch with it.

Siege was right, as was atomwaffen, the base, and all those other fed honey trap operations, their LeVayen satanic philosophy had some degree of merit to it, at least in this aspect, sone of Anton Levay's inspirations, such as Frederick Neitzsche and Ayn Rand, had very good points that need to be heeded.

We grew up with shows about how we must fight against vital and valid parts of who we are, to either cast them out, or bury those parts of ourselves deep inside.

Look how that turned out for us, generations of makes who have forgotten how to be angry, they forgotten how to throw a solid punch, forgotten, bevause this was knowledge they had as children, but lost along the way with living in a world that did its best to purge those natural elements from it.

We tried to reason with the unreasonable, to try to solve issues that caused conflict while avoiding the realities of the situation so as to not offend anyone, leafing to fruitless resolutions to recurring problems that only get worse each time they come up again.

Nothing can be gained from avoiding reality, and nothing can come from denying the parts of your psyche that have a valid reason to be there.

Parts of your psyche that are desperately needed right now. We need to be more like the groups we fight against, but not become entirely like them, we must focus our wrath on the targets that would be most effective to take out first, then move down the list of what we need to go after until we finally excize the parasites and tumors from our societies.

We make a list of what obstacles need to be removed first. For example, starting with the police is a good move, they protect the astroturf thugs and are the ones who give substance to the rules of the zog establishment, then the thugs can be dealt with as they are left unprotected. Or starting with the wealthiest areas of your city, a mob that trashes and torches the places where the one percent live is a good move hit them at their homes in the night, not just homes, but schools, parks, other areas of interest, and surrounding businesses. The wealthy urban elite are always your enemies, those who aren't are necessary sacrifices.

What the blm mobs lacked, we will possess, strategy. Plans should be coordinated on secure communication channels, I reccomend using some private communication on the deep web, tails, qubes, whonix, are essential, and should be required for people joining in the conversation.

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I think many police can be converted.

Before the first Revolution, judges were installed by the King. When WeThePeople wanted a particular judge to step down, a small group of masked men would ride to the judge's house at night, knock on his door, and ask him kindly to resign. As the men turned to leave, a large group of men further down the road would all fire their weapons at once. The judge would quit the next day.

I think this method could be updated for modern times.

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Watch Neo-Pagans seethe.

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I'm still unsure why people observe the need for contention. I don't understand why people can't put religious dogma in boxes and just sort through them at their leisure. No one really needs to confine themselves to one spiritual structure. In fact, that's the big thing that stunts people. Anyone who has studied different religions and spiritual practices should recognize they amalgamate to various lengths. Studying their amalgamation, that's what really begets spiritual awakening.

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Hippies who believe in spiritual awakenings are not people I'd rely on. You object to my small contention and observation but they are the main source of contention, I am not evangelising any 'confined' perspective.

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Hippies are very usually stunted in a variety of ways, I've found. I'm not objecting to what you're saying I'm only explaining my confusion over other people being so unwilling to be open to ideas that aren't their own or their preference.

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Unpack my sack, nigga

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If your wife is constantly complaining then all your "appropriate advice" and "kindness" doesn’t mean shit. She is putting the responsibility for her happiness on your shoulders and that is not something any man can bear.

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Women will vent no matter what happens. Encourage her to share her venting with people other than just you. If you get exhausted, put her down and tell her to complain to other people, she will find someone else. That person will explain to her that your emotional unavailability ought not be welcomed in her life and will begin to talk her out of your relationship. You either shoulder the burden of your wife's complaint, which we all know is inevitable or someone else will and it won't end well for you. This is a big reason women cheat on their husbands.

I don't like it either. I'm annoyed with women who also complain too. But this is a way most women relieve stress. If you don't let her vent that stress, it will eat her up and she'll look for alternative ways to "be heard". Tread very carefully in these areas. Taking a wrong step may cripple your relationship in short order.

OP is spot on here.

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You don't get it just like the other guy. It's not your responsibility to make anyone happy. Everyone's happiness is their own responsibility. A woman chooses to be unhappy. It has nothing to do with listening or talking. She wants something. That is why she is unhappy. Since you are the provider she thinks its your fault.

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I'm afraid you're the one that doesn't get it. Yes, your responsibility isn't someone else's emotional security. I'm saying everything in a relationship is a negotiation. Talk with her about how her saturating your emotional capacity is weighing on you. Ask her to find other people to vent with outside of just you. Yeah, sure, be critical of her oversharing. Just understand though that her ways of relieving stress aren't quite the same as yours. You probably like to head to the range, lift some weights, drink a beer, smoke a joint, listen to music or whatever, right? Those are stress-relieving practices, all of them. Even masturbating. Her version of that is getting things off her chest and informing you about things that are bothering her. You must understand that, just like if she asked you to stop drinking beer, to stop being in the gym or range so often, that you would feel trapped all the same. You'd need some alternative way to de-stress. If you intend to interrupt that process for her, there may be ramifications.

At the same time, you can let the complaints wash over you. You don't have to suck them all up and hold them in. Choose what weight to carry. Free yourself of things that weigh you down.

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So change your perspective, and be glad your wife "informs" you, her confidante, protector, and confider, of her woes. She trusts you, and that says something.

"And no one can thrust upon any man, that which he is unwilling to close his fist around."

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Wives that constantly complain are usually complaining about their husband. They don't trust them and they think their husbands are retarded children. She is not complaining that her car broke down, she is complaining about her husband's inability to make more money for her to buy a better car. She is not complaining about her shity day at work, she is complaining that her husband doesn't let stay at home. No matter what your perspective is, she will be unhappy with reality and it it's all your fault.

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You are incorrect, though you may be correct for your particular situation.