Good for you! About that doghouse: can I offer some unsolicited advice? In general I don't dictate what my husband is allowed to do or who he is allowed to associate with, but I DO clearly state boundaries I have for MYSELF and it seems to work much better Luckily we don't butt heads on much, but when we do I've found something more like "I don't want to be in the same room with ____ ever again, so if you invite him over again, make sure you tell me in advance so I can be busy somewhere else" is a better way of handling something like this situation you describe than giving him an ultimatum. When I was younger I might have done what you describe, but as I've gotten older I have found this to be a better way. Similar with unwanted behaviors: if he's having a bad day and isn't speaking to me with kindness, I've discovered that asking "do you think this is an appropriate tone of voice to use with your wife in response to this situation?" Goes WAY further than the silent treatment or being rude in response or saying "don't talk to me like that!" in response. I'm not a doormat or anything. He definitely knows my preferences on things and with virtually no exceptions he tries to be the type of man I find most attractive, but making an effort to never tell him who he *has* to be or what he *has* to do has made my life and our marriage so much better. He knows I find adult men that play video games absolutely pathetic and repulsive just from conversations we've had over the years. But I never told him he wasn't *allowed* to play them in front of me, or that I would break up with him if he did. The result is that without me having to ask, he never plays them or even reads about them in front of me, and he only ever breaks out his college console when I'm traveling to visit my family without him. I never have to see him doing it, and 99% of the rest of the time he is a man engaged in activities I find respectable lol.