> Single mothers tell doctors their children have fake illnesses and medicate their children unnecessarily (this includes sex changes) in order to gain sympathy
Munchausen syndrome by proxy is the medical definition. My mother had it after my father died unexpectedly when I was an infant. The trauma caused her to go crazy and I had to live with my grandparents for years during a 5 year legal battle between them and her for the custody of me. I still carry a ton of baggage from it and all the other problems stemming from it and I don't think ever truly get over it. It's extremely hard for me to trust anyone when I couldn't even depend on my own mother for safety and reliability when I needed her the most as little kid.
Few people manage to gain meaningful insight in how their childhood traumata influence them. Most prefer to stay delusional or lack the intelligence for introspection.
And paradoxically I believe part of healing, is to let go of the hope to find healing or to be fixed. It only makes you postpone striving for life goals.
If you accept that you cannot be fixed, you may instead focus on finding ways to compensate for your flaws.
For example, in regards to your trust issues, I may recommend studying body language. That way, if someone tells you that they love you and will not harm or cheat on you, you have a way to validate if they say the truth. That might be sufficient to trust them.
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