So i dont even know what she is, since my wife died, im guessing its still an ex MIL. Anyways, it feels so frustrating trying to work with her on anything. I've been helping her with my wife's grave, and even that has become aggravating. Apparently it's been 3 years and these people did absolutely nothing for the grave, like absolutely nothing. The place looks like an abandoned waste land right now. So i thought, ok, i guess I'll do it myself. And now she has the balls to fucking insult me and tell me im an asshole. I originally left because these people were being abraesive assholes, the type who expect everything to be handed to them. My wife's mom even "skipped" the funeral because she wanted to go dancing with her friends instead, and yet she complains about me not being proactive enough, even though im setting up all the forms and coordination for unfucking everything she did. On top of this, I am now responsible for litigation against some company she worked for, because these people are so fucking lazy, they want someone else to do the heavy lifting for them, even though they were the ones who initiated the entire grave marker. But now, all of a sudden, Im responsible for their litigation problems. It's like, is there fucking ANYTHING you can do right now? From my POV, everyone in that family comes off as horribly entitled (they are Asian, hence my deep hatred for Asians nowadays), trying to literally stab you in the back at every turn