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So i dont even know what she is, since my wife died, im guessing its still an ex MIL. Anyways, it feels so frustrating trying to work with her on anything. I've been helping her with my wife's grave, and even that has become aggravating. Apparently it's been 3 years and these people did absolutely nothing for the grave, like absolutely nothing. The place looks like an abandoned waste land right now. So i thought, ok, i guess I'll do it myself. And now she has the balls to fucking insult me and tell me im an asshole. I originally left because these people were being abraesive assholes, the type who expect everything to be handed to them. My wife's mom even "skipped" the funeral because she wanted to go dancing with her friends instead, and yet she complains about me not being proactive enough, even though im setting up all the forms and coordination for unfucking everything she did. On top of this, I am now responsible for litigation against some company she worked for, because these people are so fucking lazy, they want someone else to do the heavy lifting for them, even though they were the ones who initiated the entire grave marker. But now, all of a sudden, Im responsible for their litigation problems. It's like, is there fucking ANYTHING you can do right now? From my POV, everyone in that family comes off as horribly entitled (they are Asian, hence my deep hatred for Asians nowadays), trying to literally stab you in the back at every turn

So i dont even know what she is, since my wife died, im guessing its still an ex MIL. Anyways, it feels so frustrating trying to work with her on anything. I've been helping her with my wife's grave, and even that has become aggravating. Apparently it's been 3 years and these people did absolutely nothing for the grave, like absolutely nothing. The place looks like an abandoned waste land right now. So i thought, ok, i guess I'll do it myself. And now she has the balls to fucking insult me and tell me im an asshole. I originally left because these people were being abraesive assholes, the type who expect everything to be handed to them. My wife's mom even "skipped" the funeral because she wanted to go dancing with her friends instead, and yet she complains about me not being proactive enough, even though im setting up all the forms and coordination for unfucking everything she did. On top of this, I am now responsible for litigation against some company she worked for, because these people are so fucking lazy, they want someone else to do the heavy lifting for them, even though they were the ones who initiated the entire grave marker. But now, all of a sudden, Im responsible for their litigation problems. It's like, is there fucking ANYTHING you can do right now? From my POV, everyone in that family comes off as horribly entitled (they are Asian, hence my deep hatred for Asians nowadays), trying to literally stab you in the back at every turn

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[–] 7 pts

If you have no kids with your wife, then ex MIL isn't anything to you and you have no obligation to be in contact with her or anyone else. If the litigation against a company is on a contingency fee basis, then help the lawyer as you see fit or are subpoenaed to do, and do no more. If the relatives initiated the lawsuit and are paying for the lawyer hourly and no recovery/benefit goes to you, or recovery is less than bills, then abandon ship. Do as you wish with the grave site, if they don't like the marker, they can pay to put in their own version, meanwhile the one you put in stays (likely they won't do anything to change it out based on what you posted)

[–] [deleted] 4 pts

wife's mom even "skipped" the funeral

You can skip the rest. You owe her nothing. If this relationship isn't serving you in any way maybe it's time to part ways.

[–] 5 pts

Makes me think the mom never liked the daughter, i mean i had no words that day, like holy fuck, just what? A fucking dance party is more important than your own fucking daughter?

[–] 3 pts

Did you open the lawsuit or would it benefit or harm you in any way? If no, then don’t mess with it and tell them to fuck off.

[–] 6 pts

There isnt one, they want me to start one on their behalf, under my name. Which is code word for I pay for it, whilst they remove any liability they have in the process. If it wins, they get their money back, minus legal fees. If they lose, I lose money and they dont pay a dime. It's not even surprising honestly, this is just how Asians do shit, they're like jews

[–] 6 pts

Change your contact information and tell them to fuck off.

[–] 6 pts

That and my wife pretty much told me upfront, in the event of her death i was to abandon her parents. Technically she hated them so much she was in the process of abandoning them when she was still alive. It's a salty point, because i hate the poal attitude of honorary aryans, there's nothing honorary about these fucks

[–] 2 pts

They're trying to make you responsible for a lawsuit against a company your late wife worked for? What are they hoping to get out of it, other than a lump of cash? If that's the only reason - and you don't need the cash - don't go through the process. Lawsuits are a nightmare and usually not worth the mediocre settlement you get (2/3 of) when it's over.

[–] 5 pts

They used a company to build a grave stone, and that company failed to deliver. The total out of pocket loss is around 3,000 (this woman is a millionaire and she's bitching over 3 grand). So they want to sue the grave marker store for deliverables not rendered. But since i was not in the order form anywhere except at first, i would be suing a gravestone maker on behalf of another client, on behalf of myself for the cost of loss minus fees. Which to me, is simply not worth it. It sucks, but this is one of the cases where you eat the cost and move on. I already have everything redone and ordered properly (took me less than a week to do what they couldnt do in 3 years) on the burial plot, so the loss is annoying, but not that concerning

[–] 2 pts

If it was me I would have nothing to do with my former in-laws. I know it's easy for a stranger to say but it's the only advice I can give that makes sense. They screwed up - they fix it.

[–] 3 pts

Again, why i think Asians are despicable people. They completely fucked up, but they know that i still care about my wife to not let her be buried in a place that looks like an actual wasteland. So they fucked up knowing someone would bail them out, hence the complete lack of concern for any quality or finish. I mean, FFS, even assuming the deliverables weren't happening, hwo the fuck does it take 3 YEARS to make a decision over your own daughter's grave? In that time, you could have contacted someone else, had a new quote, started litigation AND have everything finished up

[–] 0 pt

Just tell them you don't have standing, they have to do it themselves and be done with them.

[–] 1 pt

Tell her to fuck off, pussy.

They expect everything handed to them because you do it. If you take on their problems, that's your fault. You are not obligated.

Stop whining and grow a pair of balls, or shut the fuck up.

[–] 1 pt

I'm sorry for your loss. I'm angry at your trouble. Asians aren't entitled they're incompetent and it shows at times like this. Everything we've been taught is a lie and this is why china is still a third world country outside the cities. They might be book smart but they're not street smart. That's why they get beat up every day. Do what needs to be done but reject them at every turn. The faster you get them out of your life the better. As far as litigation.. what's that about? Any contract your wife signed to perform for a number of years is null upon death. I'd sue.

[–] 0 pt

Explained in another comment, litigation against the grave marker store who was making the burial plot. Since I'm not the one who placed the order though, it would be me suing on behalf of the ex in law's family, against the grave marker store, which makes everything extremely complicated from a litigation aspect. I dont think im even allowed to sue on such a charge, since the violation does not directly involve me, my wife, or my estate.

[–] 0 pt

Oh. Can you prove who made the order and correct the billing department? If not you may be stuck. That sucks. But you're a man you'll outlive these troubles. Believe me you'll get back to good days. Just sucks you have to waste so much time in court.

[–] 0 pt

I mean worst case scenario, contact the card issuer and tell them they were fraudulent purchases and ask for a refund. Takes 10 minutes, and done. Why even bother with fucking around with litigation on this one?

[–] 0 pt

Doxx her on 4ch. ... Kidding. Utilize the inverse-Cube law.

i asked you if you had a support system while you are struggling with your life-and-death health issues. this has answered my question.

you have an anti-support system and if you don't cut them out of your life, you will be dead sooner rather than later. and get your will in order so that none of these leeches see one penny.

[–] 2 pts

Yeah, both sides of my family: the in laws, and my own family, are both very heavily against me using estate planning or setting up a will. Wonder why .... My wife had left me around 750,000 and it has been non stop calls to give it back to the family, etc

[–] 3 pts

Dude you better not cuck out on this. You’re being too friendly to these parasitic pieces of shit. Listen to what everyone is telling you and cut them out. Block their numbers and for good measure maybe mention that your wife absolutely hated them and now you know why. Don’t even invite them to the funeral.

Done.

i truly and sincerely hope that you have a good friend in all this. and if not, that you find one some lucky day.

why don't you move? and tell everyone you have no guest rooms for visitors.

[–] 0 pt

Cut her out, bitch is ungrateful. It is very hard to change that aspect of people's personality. Not your problem

[–] 0 pt

they are Asian

I thought you were talking about niggers

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