I'm really sorry. This is horrific. Out of curiosity was it within a week of vaccines? There are a lot of trends between SIDs and vaccines.
I have a friend who carried two baby boys to 34 weeks (separate pregnancies!!) and she went into labor and they died in her arms in a matter of minutes. She is having such a hard time coping. it's been two years and it's haunting her. She had her tubes tied because of it and all her friends are having more kids, many by accident and out of wedlock, she's in her early 20's.
Really though, I'm sorry for your loss. I'm glad you've been able to move past it. If you have any suggestions on how to be a better friend or supporter to someone who has lost a child I would love to hear it. She says I'm the only one who ever acknowledges that they were a person, everyone else pretends they never happened. I'm working on making her one of those silhouette wood frames that you can put the sonogram inside, but with her silhouette instead of a generic.
As someone who has only lost a parental figure, I feel ill equipped for being a good support for someone who has lost a child. It's just not the same. It speaks volumes to your constitution that you've been able to overcome. I hope your wife is doing as well as you.
From one internet stranger to another, wishing you the very best.
was it within a week of vaccines?
None of my kids received or will receive any vaccines. All their births have been fully natural, no drugs involved whatsoever. She just didnt wake up and the autopsy found no reason at all for her death.
Thanks for the thoughts, it's been a few years now and we have another little one that came along after her.
As a Christian, my children are a gift from God and belong to Him from the moment of their conception. I'm just their earthly father doing my best to raise them up in the way they should go so when God took her to Him, it was an opportunity for me to die to myself and thank God for the short time we got to hold her. As Job said, "Naked came I out of my mother's womb, and naked shall I return thither: the LORD gave, and the LORD hath taken away; blessed be the name of the LORD."
It changed me to put that tiny coffin in the ground and to stand on top of my own eventual grave next to her little tombstone. One of the final binds our enemies have on us is that righteous men have something to lose; we have wives and children and things we've worked for and value. But now in addition to that, I have a little one on the other side and I want so badly to see her again. I'm here to love the rest of my children and to serve for as long as my Lord sees fit, but when it's my time to stand fast over whichever of the bolshevik fronts reaches my door first, I'm ready to go.
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