I was drinking myself to death for a couple of months after my month-old daughter died in her sleep. I stopped drinking cold and I've never felt better.
Cold Turkey has a higher success rate than AA.
And you don't have to listen to a buncha whiny losers
I'll drink to that!
Yeah, they lost all validity with me calling it a disease and not a choice.
Yeah that shit fucking irks me, "i am powerless to handle my addictions" fucking great marketing strategy for addiction centers to get people coming back, if they get them to literally pray that shit everyday...
You don't understand the changes that go on in the body. If you eat only pizza, your bacteria is going to be geared towards processing that food. Now if you drink all the time, you're going to develop pathogens that feed on alcohol or it's by products. If those pathogens are of the sort that can control the mind through "cravings", then it could easily be considered a disease.
The same exact thing happens with food based addictions.
edit: should also mention deficiency, drinking may provide missing nutrition in some amounts. I would abuse milk, if you can believe how dumb that is, but once I corrected my diet, I didn't even want milk anymore.
Infinitely more valid reason to need a drink than I ever had. We're just glad you're alive since the bottle is a choice that you can change you mind on and make a better decision later so you self medicated for a time and now realize you wound is scabbed over a bit, just enough to do something else to heal your soul. God Bless and if you slip it's OK, just realize that also is not a permanent choice and stop when you realize that also. I think we'll find your situation in the dictionary as the definition of the word Devastated.
If I ever gave you a shit reply when you were here drunk or not I apologize for your pain is much more than I could even tolerate and forgive me since I have just now forgiven you for any thoughts or responses I chose in ignorance of your situation.
All good man. Agree, I don't like the whole, I'm an alcoholic disease thing. Have a drinking problem. Starting naltrexone hopefully Thursday. Haven't drunk since Saturday, but I know I'll get cravings soon
I learned decades ago. Bought an 18 pack and drank one of the 4 still left a couple days ago. My brain actually a few years back did something amazing. I opened a beer for the first time in over a year and almost vomited from the smell and taste of an ice cold beer, so got one from the store down the street and same smell and taste.
I then waited around 3 years and it's OK though it was the best tasting stuff in my 20's. I think the most I've drank is 3 or 4 beers in a row in the past 10 years and I used to drink a 12 pack in 2 hrs as a warmup after work every day and non stop drinking on the weekends. So you live, learn, and beer music and other stuff becomes less important and I'm so glad since if not I'd kept drinking and been dead like 10 years ago when my liver would have likely told me to fuck myself.
cravings
Stock up on ice cream. It mimics the sugars alcohol breaks down into, helping you with the cravings.
I'm really sorry. This is horrific. Out of curiosity was it within a week of vaccines? There are a lot of trends between SIDs and vaccines.
I have a friend who carried two baby boys to 34 weeks (separate pregnancies!!) and she went into labor and they died in her arms in a matter of minutes. She is having such a hard time coping. it's been two years and it's haunting her. She had her tubes tied because of it and all her friends are having more kids, many by accident and out of wedlock, she's in her early 20's.
Really though, I'm sorry for your loss. I'm glad you've been able to move past it. If you have any suggestions on how to be a better friend or supporter to someone who has lost a child I would love to hear it. She says I'm the only one who ever acknowledges that they were a person, everyone else pretends they never happened. I'm working on making her one of those silhouette wood frames that you can put the sonogram inside, but with her silhouette instead of a generic.
As someone who has only lost a parental figure, I feel ill equipped for being a good support for someone who has lost a child. It's just not the same. It speaks volumes to your constitution that you've been able to overcome. I hope your wife is doing as well as you.
From one internet stranger to another, wishing you the very best.
was it within a week of vaccines?
None of my kids received or will receive any vaccines. All their births have been fully natural, no drugs involved whatsoever. She just didnt wake up and the autopsy found no reason at all for her death.
Thanks for the thoughts, it's been a few years now and we have another little one that came along after her.
As a Christian, my children are a gift from God and belong to Him from the moment of their conception. I'm just their earthly father doing my best to raise them up in the way they should go so when God took her to Him, it was an opportunity for me to die to myself and thank God for the short time we got to hold her. As Job said, "Naked came I out of my mother's womb, and naked shall I return thither: the LORD gave, and the LORD hath taken away; blessed be the name of the LORD."
It changed me to put that tiny coffin in the ground and to stand on top of my own eventual grave next to her little tombstone. One of the final binds our enemies have on us is that righteous men have something to lose; we have wives and children and things we've worked for and value. But now in addition to that, I have a little one on the other side and I want so badly to see her again. I'm here to love the rest of my children and to serve for as long as my Lord sees fit, but when it's my time to stand fast over whichever of the bolshevik fronts reaches my door first, I'm ready to go.
Glad you're alright mate
months after my month-old daughter died in her sleep.
As the father of four. I cant imagine. Im sorry for your loss.
Honest question? Parents and child together or sperate when sleeping? No judgment, im honestly curious.
She was in the bed with my wife. She wasn't smothered.
I ask because My wife and I bed share with all are kids. I assumed, wrongfully. That you didnt bed share. Again sorry for your loss.
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