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Hi. Today I have attended the funeral of my mother. She was a proud conservative, like the rest of her family. I am very self confident thanks to her, because I am sure about my mother being a great person. I'm still shocked by her sudden death.

My grandmother managed to live until 90 years old without getting sick, so I was expecting my mother to live as long as her. A month ago the doctor said she was dying and there is nothing medicine can do anymore.

I have spent the last month making her comfortable as much as I was able to do. The day she died, it become the first day of the rest of my life. Now I feel like a ghost. I just do things I am supposed to do. I don't think I will be able to laugh anymore as I used to do.

If you have lost your parents too, could you please tell me if it's possible to recover sooner or later from the psychological trauma?

Hi. Today I have attended the funeral of my mother. She was a proud conservative, like the rest of her family. I am very self confident thanks to her, because I am sure about my mother being a great person. I'm still shocked by her sudden death. My grandmother managed to live until 90 years old without getting sick, so I was expecting my mother to live as long as her. A month ago the doctor said she was dying and there is nothing medicine can do anymore. I have spent the last month making her comfortable as much as I was able to do. The day she died, it become the first day of the rest of my life. Now I feel like a ghost. I just do things I am supposed to do. I don't think I will be able to laugh anymore as I used to do. If you have lost your parents too, could you please tell me if it's possible to recover sooner or later from the psychological trauma?

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[–] • 8 pts

I was able to be a live-in caregiver for my mother and it was a blessing to know she was prepared (she was 93). Thankfully she went peacefully and was able to say goodbye to the family.

Now I'm facing a terminal condition myself and my kids have been wonderful. It is indeed the circle of life. This song has meant a lot to me lately and has been of some comfort, maybe you'll appreciate it.

[–] • 4 pts

Fuck...why is it always the good ones who have to go...

Not giving you false hopes, but sometimes doctor’s predictions are way off and people get to live much much longer than expected.

Don’t want to go into details, but I’m not supposed to be here today according to what they told me, and yet 4 years later, I’m still here.

And in case they were right, don’t forget to say Hi to the Owl for us. I’m sure he’ll enjoy the company. 😉

Also, thanks for being an amazingly friendly person and for all the Paddy’s links you’ve shared with us.

[–] • 2 pts

Thank you very much for the kind words. I'm going to try to enjoy each day, no matter how many or few. You're right, I might have many left, no one knows for sure (none of us really do).

[–] • 3 pts

Sorry sorry to hear that guy/gal.

[–] • 2 pts

Thank you. At least I/they have time to prepare and wrap up loose ends.

[–] • 1 pt

Oh man. This is the first I have heard of your condition. I hope it is not a painful one. Are you doing all right? This came as quite the surprise to me reading this. I hope you're doing all right.

[–] • 1 pt

Sorry for your troubles. It sounds like you achieved a lot in your life with kids like that though.

[–] • 0 pt

Thank you. I'm quite surprised they turned out so well in spite of my parental skills :).

[–] • 1 pt

Sad to hear for your condition. Glad you get a warning amount of time to spend with the family though. Too many times loved ones are gone without any warning. It makes it worse.

[–] • 1 pt

Thanks, it does help to have time to get everything arranged and for us all to get used to it and have some time together. Seems I have a little while so I'll make the best of it.

[–] • 1 pt

Do everything in your power to bring smiles and laughter to that face. Those are what you will remember.