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Hi. Today I have attended the funeral of my mother. She was a proud conservative, like the rest of her family. I am very self confident thanks to her, because I am sure about my mother being a great person. I'm still shocked by her sudden death.

My grandmother managed to live until 90 years old without getting sick, so I was expecting my mother to live as long as her. A month ago the doctor said she was dying and there is nothing medicine can do anymore.

I have spent the last month making her comfortable as much as I was able to do. The day she died, it become the first day of the rest of my life. Now I feel like a ghost. I just do things I am supposed to do. I don't think I will be able to laugh anymore as I used to do.

If you have lost your parents too, could you please tell me if it's possible to recover sooner or later from the psychological trauma?

Hi. Today I have attended the funeral of my mother. She was a proud conservative, like the rest of her family. I am very self confident thanks to her, because I am sure about my mother being a great person. I'm still shocked by her sudden death. My grandmother managed to live until 90 years old without getting sick, so I was expecting my mother to live as long as her. A month ago the doctor said she was dying and there is nothing medicine can do anymore. I have spent the last month making her comfortable as much as I was able to do. The day she died, it become the first day of the rest of my life. Now I feel like a ghost. I just do things I am supposed to do. I don't think I will be able to laugh anymore as I used to do. If you have lost your parents too, could you please tell me if it's possible to recover sooner or later from the psychological trauma?

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[–] • 19 pts

Time will help but living your life in a way that would make her proud is the best medicine I've found.

[–] • 4 pts

Absolutely this. Her memory lives within you. She wouldn't want you experiencing less enjoyments because she is gone. Live your life to the fullest to honor her memory.

[–] • 8 pts

I was able to be a live-in caregiver for my mother and it was a blessing to know she was prepared (she was 93). Thankfully she went peacefully and was able to say goodbye to the family.

Now I'm facing a terminal condition myself and my kids have been wonderful. It is indeed the circle of life. This song has meant a lot to me lately and has been of some comfort, maybe you'll appreciate it.

[–] • 4 pts

Fuck...why is it always the good ones who have to go...

Not giving you false hopes, but sometimes doctor’s predictions are way off and people get to live much much longer than expected.

Don’t want to go into details, but I’m not supposed to be here today according to what they told me, and yet 4 years later, I’m still here.

And in case they were right, don’t forget to say Hi to the Owl for us. I’m sure he’ll enjoy the company. 😉

Also, thanks for being an amazingly friendly person and for all the Paddy’s links you’ve shared with us.

[–] • 2 pts

Thank you very much for the kind words. I'm going to try to enjoy each day, no matter how many or few. You're right, I might have many left, no one knows for sure (none of us really do).

[–] • 3 pts

Sorry sorry to hear that guy/gal.

[–] • 2 pts

Thank you. At least I/they have time to prepare and wrap up loose ends.

[–] • 1 pt

Oh man. This is the first I have heard of your condition. I hope it is not a painful one. Are you doing all right? This came as quite the surprise to me reading this. I hope you're doing all right.

[–] • 1 pt

Sorry for your troubles. It sounds like you achieved a lot in your life with kids like that though.

[–] • 0 pt

Thank you. I'm quite surprised they turned out so well in spite of my parental skills :).

[–] • 1 pt

Sad to hear for your condition. Glad you get a warning amount of time to spend with the family though. Too many times loved ones are gone without any warning. It makes it worse.

[–] • 1 pt

Thanks, it does help to have time to get everything arranged and for us all to get used to it and have some time together. Seems I have a little while so I'll make the best of it.

[–] • 1 pt

Do everything in your power to bring smiles and laughter to that face. Those are what you will remember.

[–] • 7 pts

It will get easier anon.

Best wishes for you.

[–] • 6 pts

My mother died when I was 9 years old. It took 20 years to get right again.
A mother is probably the only human who will love you unconditionally and that's a huge loss. I'm sorry.

[–] • 9 pts

My father loved me unconditionally. My mother didn't. I miss both of them greatly.

[–] • 4 pts

Focus on the good memories. You'll always miss your loved ones. My condolences to you and your family for your loss of your mother.

[–] • 4 pts

The only cure is time.

[–] • 3 pts

I lost my mom about a year ago. The relationship was complicated. She was pretty conservative too. One of her better qualities. For a few months I really couldn’t stop thinking about death. Its a bit better now.

Its hard to tell if Im upset about my mom dying or just fucking jews wrecking everything. Im being totally serious.

[–] • 3 pts

Sorry to hear of your loss. I lost both. I didn’t care about my Dad, but when my mom died it hit me hard. The worst part was not having someone to call and share your accomplishments with. I felt a part of me that tethered me to earth was now gone. It gets better over time but takes quite a while. The best thing you can do is keep her memory alive.

[–] • 3 pts

I lost both parents within a 4-month time span. It was difficult to deal with at the time but you get used to it. At odd times I find myself thinking things like, "Mom would have loved to see this..." or "Dad wasn't such an asshole after all..." but you learn to move on.

[–] • 0 pt

I came to realize my Father was a hard ass when it was necessary, but I looked to him for advice and to my Mother for love. Does that make sense? I'm a girl.

[–] • 0 pt

My father was hard on all of us but as we got older my brothers and I understood why. We are all self-reliant and know how to so all of the basic trades required to maintain a house. My mom taught us all to cook, clean, do laundry, etc. also to make us self-reliant.

[–] • 3 pts

The comfort of God as a loving Father through a relationship with Jesus Christ will send the Holy Spirit, the greatest comforter, into your life. Turn to Christ, as I am sure there is no better answer to help with the pain of searing loss. https://www.gracechurch.org/about/gospel https://www.gracechurch.org/sermons/4888

[–] • 3 pts

It never gets easy, just less directly painful over time. My dad died ten years ago and I still think about him all the time.

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